(Closed) FMIL bought a new dress…

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 31
6340 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

Bridal? No. I think it looks like a typical mother of the bride type of dress.

Post # 32
1705 posts
Bumble bee

It looks like a mother of the bride dress. Just let her wear what she wants. A lot of times it’s really hard for moms to find something they’re comfortable in, and you already had one veto.

Post # 33
1189 posts
Bumble bee

Here’s my 2 cents…. (and I genuinely don’t want this to come off as snarky as that’s really not my intent in any way)….just another piece to consider here…

let her pick what she wants to wear! Your relationship with your Mother-In-Law is far more important than any dress she may buy. Appreciate the fact that she wants to please YOU.  I don’t think it matters in the least if her dress is the same color as your mum’s or the bridesmaids or whatever. Sounds as if she will match the color scheme of the wedding if she elects to purchase this dress. The fact that she is giving you veto power over the dress she wears is very touching.  I think that’s lovely and clearly she wants you to be happy and like her choice. Not everyone is so lucky to have such a wonderful relationship with their Mother-In-Law.  there are certainly many posts here on the bee about this!!

My Mother-In-Law was the most wonderful woman on the planet. she passed away three years ago, and I think of her and still miss her every day.

When DH and I were getting married she asked me what I would prefer that she wear and I  told her ‘no leopard print bikini. Otherwise, whatever you like.’ She laughed and guaranteed she wouldn’t show up in a bikini. When she pressed for a bit more, I told her the wedding colors (black/ burgundy) and told her that she could consider purchasing something that would blend in. She and my mom both ended up in burgundy dresses and I didn’t see her dress until the day of the wedding. She looked lovely.

Post # 34
205 posts
Helper bee

it does not look bridal unless the bride is 60.

Post # 35
591 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

If it were my Future Mother-In-Law, I wouldn’t care.  It seems fine to me.

Post # 37
842 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception / Courtyard Marriott Legacy Ballroom

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pinkprincess88 :  My Mother-In-Law did the same thing! She kept sending me pictures of dresses for my approval – she lives about a 2 hour drive away, so we couldn’t go shopping together. I never told her not to use any of those dresses, but I did tell her they weren’t very flattering on her (they were all rather cheap looking dresses). I didn’t realize she had bought all the dresses she showed me until she wore one of them at our wedding shower and I felt bad she spent all that money because she can’t afford it.

Anyway, she ended up buying a really nice dress that flattered her figure really well about a month before our wedding without showing it to me. I didn’t find out until our wedding day that it was knee length, but she looked nice and felt great in it, so I didn’t really mind. I did think the green shoes and jewelry were a bit much (the dress was blush colored, so it clashed pretty badly), but the look totally goes with her personalitytongue-out

Post # 38
201 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

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MrsDUH2016 :  re: colors – Agreed!

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pinkprincess88 :  I don’t mean to sound mean, but i hope to god she plans on having this altered. It does not fit properly at all.

I also see how it could be viewed as being kind of bride-y, but seriously, no one is going to think she’s the bride.

Post # 40
1575 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I think it looks nice for a mother dress, and it would be even nicer to have both moms in the same color if you are wearing white or ivory. No one will mistake them for the bride in that color. 

Post # 41
680 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

It doesn’t look bridal to me, I would only see it as an issue if you are planning to wear a shade other than white (champagne, blush, etc) but that looks very mother of the bride to me and what a great deal!

Post # 42
2633 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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pinkprincess88 :  i dont think it looks bridal and also no one is going to mistake your mother in law for the bride.

Post # 43
172 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

is that from Davids bridal? my Mother-In-Law and GMIL wore the same dress in purple and silver

Post # 45
1939 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I personally see nothing wrong with her dress. In my opinion it’s the perfect MOB/MOG gown. 

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