(Closed) FMIL bought me the UGLIEST jewelry to wear on wedding day

posted 8 years ago in Accessories
Post # 3
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Blushing bee

tell her thank you so much, but you had something specific in mind for your wedding jewely! maybe you could wear it to the rehearsal dinner or something? ehhhhhh

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

You can say no!

Just tell her you tried it on with the dress, and while it’s beautiful, it isn’t right for your wedding dress. No negotiation. If she presses further, tell her your aunt/friend/ANYONE has already “loaned” you a necklace that they asked you to try if FMILs fell through. Good luck!

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

That’s what I would do!  I’d say that another relative also gave you a gift of jewelry that they wanted you to wear on your wedding day.  So, as to not hurt their feelings, you’ll wear that during the reception.  I don’t condone lying, but when its only done to not offend someone or hurt their feelings, I am all about it!

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Yeah tell her it isn’t right, but that you love it! Wear it with other stuff in the meantime, just not your dress! 

I think it’s kinda presumptuous for her to buy you something without checking with you first! That’s kind of a big, important thing to buy someone! Most women have something specific in mind, jewelry-wise. Can you tell her your mom already got you some (or had intended to buy you one or let you borrow something?). I could totally see my mom getting all out of wank if she didn’t get to loan me her jewelry. She got all misty putting it on me, ya know?

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

oo i want to pictures lol. Yeah i agree with ejs-4y8.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

The rehersal dinner is a great idea….post pics!

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Maybe you could wear it to the rehearsal? Personally I would tell her that it’s not my style and say why don’t we go pick somehting out together.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

just tell her the truth, you weren’t planning on wearing one!

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m with Jenn.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

Ditto telling her you weren’t planning on wearing one, and then wearing it at the rehearsal. I think she’ll understand!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Tell her that you weren’t planning on wearing a necklace because of the style of your dress and the rest of the jewellry doesn’t quite match your outfit, thank her for the gift and then wear it when you go round and see her next time. It’s kind of sweet that she’s trying to get involved and give you a little something to wear at the wedding. 

Have you considered wrapping the necklace around your bouquet? So that you’re still using it IN the wedding but you’re not actually having to wear it? That might be a good solution if she tries to press the situation.

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