Post # 17
Like I said…..she invited herself to the tasting. I didn’t want to step on my FMIL’s toes and start things off to a rough start, so I said “sure”. Didn’t realize it was an invite to offer suggestions to change what we had at the tasting. I just thought she could give her opinion on what was already decided on for our tasting.
The trout hasn’t even been tasted. She is suggesting a menu option that no one has even tasted…just b/s Chef says he’s “well-known” for his local trout dishes.
Well, my fiance already emailed our caterer asking if we could split the dish…..so we’ll see what they say. If they can’t, then sticking to my guns and saying only chicken and scallops.
Oh, and thanks for our input about those of your who said you don’t like trout. I thought most people would like scallops over trout also. If they don’t like either…hince the chicken choice.
Post # 18
Ooo yeah if she invited herself along (sorry i missed that), i’d be careful what you mention to her in the future. She may want to come along to your dress shopping or who knows what. Cake tasting? Yeap.
I think scallops are just, well, classier than trout. I’m sure the trout is good but it’s like, something my dad would catch, bring home, and fry =]
Splitting the dish doesn’t sound like a bad option tho
Post # 19
To me- if she’s paying, ultimately if you choose to go against her wishes be prepared to have her pull her $$ from the wedding. When someone else is paying for the wedding they’ll expect a say in what’s important to them, and so if I were you, I might just go along with what she likes/wants in order to keep the peace and make sure she actually pays!
If you’re paying… go scallops. It’s your favorite, as long as your Fiance likes it, then OH WELL your money your choice.
Post # 20
Oh just saw your family is paying. Well if she’s paying for any part, (ex: the flowers, say) then think to yourself, is choosing your dish worth having to possibly pay for the flowers.
I had a Mother-In-Law who was petty and pulled out of the wedding financially leaving us stuck and having to cancel our reception. So to me making a few adjustments woul have been better than no reception. But only you know how petty she is!
Post # 21
Personally, I also like scallops over trout. And if I was at your wedding that sounds like the dish I’d pick.
My goodness, I would be careful about dealing with her about this. I wouldn’t dig in my heals, it might come back to haunt you. Have your Fi tell her, HE wants the dish. Say it’s the dish you’re going to order, or he’s going to order. Have him tell her that most of the ppl you’ve asked prefer scallops, and that he wants to work with HIS new in-laws to make a good impression. IDK, whatever he thinks works. But don’t deal with it yourself. She’s likely to forgive her own son decades quicker than she’d forget about it coming from you.
Post # 22
Umm, isn’t the fact that YOU ARE GETTING MARRIED a unique experience? I think just don’t worry about it, and don’t try to read into “are they being cheap?” or not. That’ll just get you into trouble. Choose what you like as much as you can, and remember, you are getting married. Is this (the menu) a mountain or a molehill? Think about that, and whatever you decide, go with that level of reaction.
Post # 23
Thanks ladies. I’m not going to bring up the menu any further if I don’t have to.
Post # 24
Out of all three options, I would totally scarf some scallops. Yummy!
Post # 25
If your family is paying and you want scallops, get scallops! We combined our two favorite meals for our wedding dinner, chicken picatta and steak with melted boursin cheese on top. We didnt care if someone didnt like it, thats what we wanted. Thankfully everyone loved it. And I LOVE scallops so Im totally on your side!!!
Post # 26
I don’t see trout as being very wedding appropriate- what is the preparation?