(Closed) FMIL Didn't adhere to the dress code.

posted 6 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2015

awwww 🙁 i might be totally wrong but– are you supposed to dictate what the mothers and grandmothers wear?? isn’t that rude? they are way older than you..

Post # 3
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Helper bee

Wait you’re not letting the parents and grandparents dress themselves? I’ve never heard of this. I could see how someone could think Coral was sort of in the pastel family. Does she have a history of trying to start stuff? Could this just be a misunderstanding? Is it worth having a fight over disagreement over pastel colors?

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I don’t know your relationship with your Future Mother-In-Law but maybe she honestly thought coral was considered pastel?? You never know. I told my mom and Future Mother-In-Law to pick a neutral color dress. My dear mom is somewhat “color challenged” and I had to be very specific when she was picking out her dress. My Future Mother-In-Law on the other hand bought an ivory one (literally the exact color of my dress) but what can you do…lol

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper

I’m not sure how she didn’t follow your direction. Coral or papaya sounds like a pastel orange to me. It’s sort of like the white and gold v blue and black dress issue. Color is all relative. 

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

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mjmjwoo:  I don’t know where you’re from but around my area the bride almost always gives moms and grandmothers dress guidelines. Just so the pictures don’t clash

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

First, you shouldn’t have a say in how anyone outside of your wedding party dresses. Other than the no-one-else-wears-white rule, adults should be able to dress themselves.

 

second, what I would consider to be “Papaya” is part of the pastel family

 

Post # 8
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Newbee

I can’t relate to why you would dictate what people wear to your wedding. It’s not a theatrical production.

Since your Future Mother-In-Law is seeking input from you, how nice of her, how about taking the opportunity to be honest. “That dress is really pretty, but I envisioned you in this color to make my wedding photos look the very best.” The color scheme is for the photos right?

Post # 9
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Blushing bee

 

Your Future Mother-In-Law is an adult. She can dress herself. Why is it critical that all the mothers and grandmothers all be in pastel?

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Uhhhhhhhhh…

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015 - Family Farm

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ChicagoBride15:  if the mothers or grandmother’s ask about a color, AND ONLY IF THEY ASK, it’s a suggestion. You don’t get to dictate their dress. This is pretty rude. Seriously. She tried to stay close. Get over it.

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

It’s rude to dictate what an adult, especially one older than you can or cannot wear. I suggest just getting over it.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I couldn’t care what my fmil, mother wear to my wedding as long as its not ivory or white or inappropiate for a wedding.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

Isn’t coral pastel enough? Is it really worth making an issue out of? She probably thought the color she picked is fine And fit into the pastel family anyway. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee

I think that the mothers and grandmothers should be able to choose their own clothes. It’s not like they’re in the wedding party. 

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