(Closed) FMIL does like the names we chose :(

posted 6 years ago in Names
Post # 3
9647 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

I love the name Ethan, but I am biased because that’s my FI’s name πŸ˜‰ i would still name your child a name you love, and I am sure once she sees her grandchild she will love whatever name you chose πŸ™‚

Post # 4
13010 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think “Amber Bethany” is kind of awkward.  “Amber Beth” might work, but something about the longer middle name doesn’t sound as cohesive to me.  I love Ethan though, it’s such a classic name.

Post # 5
719 posts
Busy bee

I have a friend who was thinking of naming her child William after DH’s father.  Her Mother-In-Law said “Pleas don’t do that-I don’t think I could love a child named William” because they were divorced.  My friend was devastated.  They didn’t name the child William, but she never forgave Mother-In-Law for saying such a cruel thing right before she was about to give birth.  People are really insensitive sometimes!  By the way, I love the names you picked!  πŸ™‚ 

Post # 6
687 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

@ChocolateLime:  I love the names you picked, not the girl’s and boy’s name. Ethan for me is really sweet and clings good, as well as Amber Bethany. 


It’s like you said, it’s your child and you and your FI/DH are the ones in charge, but sometimes people are just not very thoughtful and easily hurt your feelings. Just brush it off and be happy over the names you have, they sound (and look) really good! 

Post # 7
9142 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Rule #1 with baby names: Don’t tell anyone the name until the baby is born unless you are prepared for everyone’s opinion and critique of the name.

Post # 9
586 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I like the names though it probably doesn’t make you feel much better about it. Don’t listen to her, she’ll get over whatever name you give your kids.

My mon’s mom hated my name (Karissa) when she learned what it was but she got over it pretty quick. My nickname is Kari and my uncles first response was “like Carrie from the movie Carrie?” People can say hurtful things but it is your child and you get to name them and if they don’t like the names you picked too bad cause they already named the kids they had.

Post # 10
6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Well she’ll have a longtime to learn to like those names.  Do what you want, I like that you’re using your maiden name for your son’s middle name. 

Post # 11
8380 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I already told Darling Husband that when we TTC we are not telling my mom any of our baby names until the kid is born! People are so darn critical.

Post # 12
748 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I like the names you picked a lot! That said, your experience here is a big reason why my husband and I are keeping the name we chose for our baby girl a secret until after she’s born. I’ve heard so many stories similar to yours where a friend or family member will just criticize a name until it is ruined for the parents. We wanted to avoid that at all costs!

Post # 13
1487 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I like the names you picked!

We decided not to reveal our names, we don’t know the gender yet, but my Mom is convinced we’re having a girl, so she keeps pestering me.

I keep telling her we chose “Aretha Roses.”  (Which, we did NOT.)  She thinks we’re totally serious, so she’s been criticizing it 6 ways to Sunday, and it doesn’t bother me. And if the baby IS a girl, we’ll be using Lorelai Claire, and I won’t tell her until it’s on her birth certificate, and if she doesn’t like it, oh well.

I’m sorry your fiance forgot, and told his mother, and I’m even sorrier that your Future Mother-In-Law is making you feel bad.  But remember: YOU have to love the name, and your Fiance has to love the name, and the list ends there.

Post # 14
230 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@ChocolateLime:  definitely go with the names you love!  Everyone and their brother will tell you why you cant name your child Ethan.  they went to highschool with an Ethan. their mailman is an Ethan.  their dog growing up was ethan.  ignore them and go with your gut!  By The Way I think the names are lovely πŸ˜‰

Post # 16
2902 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@Quietserenity:  lol I love the idea of dropping a fake name into the mix to throw people off the scent! Everyone will be delighted when they find out the actual name!

Personally I like the names you have choosen and don’t believe anyone else should have a say in the matter. They will get used to it so do what you feel is right πŸ™‚

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