(Closed) FMIL does NOT want a Mother/Son Dance

posted 6 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
14495 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I don’t see why your mother would look down on his mother for not wanting to be the center of attention.  Some people are so uncomfortable doing that and that is ok.  I wouldn’t worry about it and just skip it.  If anyone says anything about it, just say that Future Mother-In-Law really wants the focus to be on the bride and not herself and that you find it rather sweet, that will stop anything anyone has to say about it.

Post # 4
4893 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

You could play the song during regular dancing time and he could dance with her like any other dance. That way, they wouldn’t be the center of attention, but it would still technically happen. 

Post # 5
3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I thin given that your Future Mother-In-Law is meek and shy it would a really bad idea to find a way to put the spotlight and make her feel uncomfortable and knowing how worked up some people can get when they have to be the center of attention even for a few moments I can imagine it would cause her to be anxious.I suggest you let this go, or arrange something private with just your Fi and his mom so she not nervous.

As for your Mom you don’t have to bring it up to her, and if she ask just tell her it’s not important to either of you that you have a Mother/Son dance and change the subject.


Post # 6
1431 posts
Bumble bee

It doesn’t really matter if your mom expects there to be a mother/son dance that is between your Fiance and his mom and if your Fiance understands I’d just leave it alone. I would rather her be feel comfortable and enjoy the wedding then being so nervous about having to dance that it ruins her time.  Some people who are that shine its just painful for them to be center of attention. Most people enjoy the Father daughter dance the most anyways.

Post # 7
6892 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I don’t get why your mom would even have an opinion on this? I think it’s important to respect your FMIL’s wishes. I like PPs suggestion to have the song played during the reception where they can dance without the awkward spotlight.

Post # 8
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

That seems like an issue between your Future Mother-In-Law and Fiance. If she doesn’t want to do it, you shouldn’t worry about it. The only one people will ask is her anyways. 

Post # 9
130 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We are doing the father/daughter and mother/son dance at the same time. Could you do that? Then maybe you could convince your Future Mother-In-Law that she won’t be the center of attention, because you and your father will also be on the floor with you.

Post # 11
5762 posts
Bee Keeper

I’d let it go if she isn’t comfortable doing it.

Post # 12
2874 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

to be honest, what your mother expects is irrelevent. if doing it is going to stress Future Mother-In-Law out then she shouldnt have to. full stop. if your mother makes any comments about it you simple say that that is how fi and her wish it.

i second the idea of playing the song during normal dancing time (so everyone else dancing too) so he can dance with her

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