(Closed) FMIL doesn't want me to have a trumpet-style dress for the wedding

posted 4 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
332 posts
Helper bee

“It’s a good think you won’t be wearing it”

My Future Mother-In-Law did the same thing with my dress, but over the colour. She didn’t want me in a blush dress, she wanted white. I reminded her that her wedding dress was not white either.

Post # 3
2693 posts
Sugar bee

Her opinion doesn’t really matter and she’s being quite rude. I’d just ignore her.

Post # 4
9127 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

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underblueskies1016 :  this is why only my mom and MOHs saw my dress before the wedding day… 

Post # 5
4810 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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underblueskies1016 :     Don’t let anyone lessen your joy is your gorgeous dress.  Your dress is your choice and you have made it.  I cannot fathom how anyone would stoop to make such a rude comment as she has.

Post # 6
133 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Idk how to say something without being rude honestly because she is being rude herself. Just tell her that is the dress you like and it is what you will wear regardless of how anybody feels about it. It is a beautiful dress btw.

Post # 7
3324 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

“Lucky you aren’t the one wearing it”

Sheesh. Its very pretty! I would avoid taking her to anything else dress related (fittings, etc), and don’t put it on for her.

Post # 8
4 posts
  • Wedding: April 2017

It’s a beautiful dress and not a traditional trumpet. If she loves it, she wouldn’t say something negative about it! I would say, ” I do appreciate your opinion and respect you as my Future Mother-In-Law, but please accept that I have chosen a dress that I love for my wedding. Please respect my decision and stop making that comment.”

Post # 9
276 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2002

Wow, how rude rude rude,   no more dress conversation in her presence period.  If the topic of your dress comes up,  shut it down and simply say, we are not discussing my beautiful dress,   repeat if necessary,  she will get the hint eventually.   If not just say I don’t want to hear negative comments about my dress, I love it, it makes me so happy, end of discussion.

Post # 10
367 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

My god what an obnoxious woman!

she got to have her dress this is your turn for your dress!

Ignore it honestly don’t indulge these comments and she’ll get bored.

that is a gorgeous dress! Enjoy it!




Post # 11
5778 posts
Bee Keeper

To quote Roger from American Dad “What’s wrong, too fabulous for you?” 

Because that is a fabulously gorgeous dress. 

But I think she’s using her age and her position to be a catty bitch, because it would be so much easier to call one of your friends out on such behaviour, but of course you hesitate because she’s not only an older-generation woman but your Future Mother-In-Law & you don’t want unnecessary drama. What I’d do in your position: try to stay upbeat and positive in your responses “I’m sorry you don’t like trumpet dresses but I just love it!’ with a big smile and then vent to my girlfriends over wine. 

If, however, she continues to make unwanted comments and barbs to you over this or some other issue of hers, you should either ask your Future Mother-In-Law straight out why she keeps saying such things- or tell your Fiance what she’s up to and have him deal with her. 

Post # 12
1 posts

That’s a gorgeous gown! I agree with PPs: she’s being incredibly rude. Not that it’s any of your FMIL’s business, but that’s actually a fit-and-flare silhouette. I’m not sure if that information will do anything, but perhaps it’ll shut her up for a bit?

Post # 13
1003 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

“wait until you see me in it, your son is going to have a hard time trying not to take me right there in the aisle”

that oughta shut her up, what a cow. That dress is freaking gorgeous, does she want you in a 1980s diana dress or something? you’re gonna look amazing! 

Post # 14
4842 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

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underblueskies1016 :  tell her its your dress and if she doesn’t like it she can go blow it out of her trumpet!!! 😉 😉 :p

Post # 15
10516 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

The dress is gorgeous!

Next time she bring it up, I would be honest with her. Say something along the lines of “I know you wish it wasn’t a trumpet, as you’ve told me several times. However, I’ve already bought the dress as I love it. So there’s really no need for you to continue to bring this topic up”

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