Post # 1
I know I shouldn’t let this bother me… but it’s starting to get to me… rant ahead.
My Future Mother-In-Law wasn’t able to come dress shopping with my mom, bridesmaids, and me. I decided on a trumpet-style dress. The trumpet on it is very subtle though, especially compared to other trumpet dresses. I love it. (Pictured below.)
As soon as my Future Mother-In-Law found out, she seems to take any opportunity she can to make sure I know how much she hates mermaid and trumpet-style dresses and how she wishes I wouldn’t have a trumpet style dress for the wedding.
The last time she came to visit, I put it on for her. She genuinely seemed to love it and then said, “I just wish it wasn’t a trumpet…”
I’m doing my best just to brush it off, but I don’t understand her need to tell me this constantly anymore. I bought the dress. I don’t want another dress. I told her this. She seemed to love it and if I hadn’t told her it was a trumpet dress, she would have probably never noticed.
It’s just frustrating. There are still 9 months until the wedding and this topic is already getting old.
Post # 2
“It’s a good think you won’t be wearing it”
My Future Mother-In-Law did the same thing with my dress, but over the colour. She didn’t want me in a blush dress, she wanted white. I reminded her that her wedding dress was not white either.
Post # 3
Her opinion doesn’t really matter and she’s being quite rude. I’d just ignore her.
Post # 4
this is why only my mom and MOHs saw my dress before the wedding day…
Post # 5
Don’t let anyone lessen your joy is your gorgeous dress. Your dress is your choice and you have made it. I cannot fathom how anyone would stoop to make such a rude comment as she has.
Post # 6
Idk how to say something without being rude honestly because she is being rude herself. Just tell her that is the dress you like and it is what you will wear regardless of how anybody feels about it. It is a beautiful dress btw.
Post # 7
“Lucky you aren’t the one wearing it”
Sheesh. Its very pretty! I would avoid taking her to anything else dress related (fittings, etc), and don’t put it on for her.
Post # 8
It’s a beautiful dress and not a traditional trumpet. If she loves it, she wouldn’t say something negative about it! I would say, ” I do appreciate your opinion and respect you as my Future Mother-In-Law, but please accept that I have chosen a dress that I love for my wedding. Please respect my decision and stop making that comment.”
Post # 9
Wow, how rude rude rude, no more dress conversation in her presence period. If the topic of your dress comes up, shut it down and simply say, we are not discussing my beautiful dress, repeat if necessary, she will get the hint eventually. If not just say I don’t want to hear negative comments about my dress, I love it, it makes me so happy, end of discussion.
Post # 10
My god what an obnoxious woman!
she got to have her dress this is your turn for your dress!
Ignore it honestly don’t indulge these comments and she’ll get bored.
that is a gorgeous dress! Enjoy it!
Post # 11
To quote Roger from American Dad “What’s wrong, too fabulous for you?”
Because that is a fabulously gorgeous dress.
But I think she’s using her age and her position to be a catty bitch, because it would be so much easier to call one of your friends out on such behaviour, but of course you hesitate because she’s not only an older-generation woman but your Future Mother-In-Law & you don’t want unnecessary drama. What I’d do in your position: try to stay upbeat and positive in your responses “I’m sorry you don’t like trumpet dresses but I just love it!’ with a big smile and then vent to my girlfriends over wine.
If, however, she continues to make unwanted comments and barbs to you over this or some other issue of hers, you should either ask your Future Mother-In-Law straight out why she keeps saying such things- or tell your Fiance what she’s up to and have him deal with her.
Post # 12
That’s a gorgeous gown! I agree with PPs: she’s being incredibly rude. Not that it’s any of your FMIL’s business, but that’s actually a fit-and-flare silhouette. I’m not sure if that information will do anything, but perhaps it’ll shut her up for a bit?
Post # 13
“wait until you see me in it, your son is going to have a hard time trying not to take me right there in the aisle”
that oughta shut her up, what a cow. That dress is freaking gorgeous, does she want you in a 1980s diana dress or something? you’re gonna look amazing!
Post # 14
tell her its your dress and if she doesn’t like it she can go blow it out of her trumpet!!! 😉 😉 :p
Post # 15
The dress is gorgeous!
Next time she bring it up, I would be honest with her. Say something along the lines of “I know you wish it wasn’t a trumpet, as you’ve told me several times. However, I’ve already bought the dress as I love it. So there’s really no need for you to continue to bring this topic up”