(Closed) FMIL drama advise please!!!

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
Member
28 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Gosh i really feel for you and alot of what you have written is how i feel too. You are not the only bride feeling this way about Mother-In-Law. She is a sad woman and sound very unhappy herself to treat others this way! Dont blame yourself. They are out of line making us feel this way. I have fallen out with Mother-In-Law over our wedding decisions. We dont talk now and i dont visit them. I find this the easiest way because then she can’t upset me. My Fiance goes round there occasionally and takes our daughter but i make my excuses and stay away. I wont put myself in the situation again, like you to let her talk to me the way she did! Your life is with your Fiance. You obviously love him to bits and i think it’s worth fighting for. I wont let Future Mother-In-Law come in the way of my happiness with my Fiance. Then she has won! She obviously has issues and if it’s with everybody you know it’s her and not personal to you (although you feel it is)! We only ever fight over his mum. So like i say the best way i deal with it is to distance myself. Then she cant cause the problems. Remove her from your facebook. What you dont read cant hurt you?  I really hope you sort it out. I’d love a good relationship with my Future Mother-In-Law but i dont think it will ever happen. I’m lucky my mum and family are “normal” so they keep me sane! Good luck!

Post # 5
Member
28 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2011

First of all you are NOT crazy. If you Fiance knows what his Mum is like he will understand you dont want to be around her. My Fiance doesn’t like the fact me and his mum dont get on now but he just has to deal with it! A good piece of advice i got from this forum was that they will never change but you can change the way you react to them. It’s the only way you will stay sane! When Fiance goes round there make yourself busy so your not thinking about what he’s doing. Surround yourself with your family and friends and ppl that are important to you! This will only make you feel better and laugh at his silly mum. She is the one missing out on a lovely daughter in law it’s her loss not yours! Let her have say and just overide it. Your life is with your Fiance and if his mum makes you feel crazy then the less you deal with her the better, hard as it may be. I used to get on with my Future Mother-In-Law but i find now i deal better with her in small doses! I really hope you work it out. You are the better person she has behaved like a child. Dont let her come between you and your Fiance. She’s not worth the arguements!

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