- 8 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
This might get a bit long:
The boy and I have been together for 5 years. And not to sugar coat it, it’s been a rough 5 years. We were off and on for multiple reasons and when I was hurt I turned to my family. So they know all the nights of crying I’ve done, etc. Anyway, several years later ‘the boy’ grew up. Realized his mistakes, got his life together and we are now engaged and moving past all the problems we used to have.
When we first got back together my family was of course not jumping up and down and signing up to be members of his fan club. In fact they thought I had lost my mind. However over time, they’ve realized the same things that I have and now welcome him with open arms. My dad and him even go golfing together.
Well our 1st family meeting family took place in May. Right off the bat someone brings up the age old questions of ‘Think they’ll really make it this time’. The boy’s mom says something about how their family likes me, etc. And my dad (being a pretty witty but quiet guy that only talks when someone asks him something) responds with ‘Yeah, we really wanted to kick ___’s ass for a while there’.
Well apparently the boy’s mom didnt take my dad’s comment too well and this Saturday she decided to mention it to me. Several bottles of wine in, and alone at one of his family member’s house (where’s the boy at this time you might ask = sleeping) she begins her rant about how my family hates the boy and wondering what the boy is getting into by marring me. Now I’m not one to say anything back in fact tears were going by this time for me. So I proceed to shut myself in a extra bedroom until drunk wine lady goes to sleep before leaving the house. All the while boy is sound asleep.
The next day, neither he or his mom remember or know what happened. All while I was back at home with my parents crying about this woman. Why such a big deal? Well the next day (now day of) his mom had invited my family over for lunch to meet up again. So its super awkward and I no longer even wanted to go. I instructed my parents to not mention anything and to just keep quiet about it all while explaining that they just were watching out for me and that she just doesn’t understand my dad’s sense of humor.
When I finally talk to the boy the morning of this family meeting and explain to him what happened he said he would talk to his mom. He understood and know my family does like him now and said he would take care off the situation. Well eventually after they speak he tells me that she found it extrememly rude that that was the first thing my dad says to her. Apparently months later she still holds this huge grudge against them. The Sunday lunch went off fine (a bit awkward but the topic was not brought up). The boy however seems to just have forgotten about it all and is fine, meanwhile i’m still extremely upset that she feels this way and that she went off on me Saturday night about everything.
What should I do? Anything? Help