Post # 1
Hi All…I don’t know if this post will come out right, but here goes. My very wonderful Future In-Laws (truth, not sarcasm), my Fiance and I were skyping last night. I’m in Minnesota teaching, he’s in Colorado at our house and his family is in New Zealand. (three way skyping is very cool by the way! And, the Future In-Laws included both sisters, niece and mom and dad)
My Future Sister-In-Law joked (I think) about Future Mother-In-Law wanting to wear a ball gown to the wedding. They also said that she was worried about how to fly to Colorado with the hoop for the dress. Now, I know they were kidding, but now I’m kinda worried that she’s going to wear something too formal for our very casual wedding. They know it’s casual, but we’ve had some interesting conversations already about Americana. They watch “Girls Next Door” and “Keeping up with the Kardashians” and while I know they know that’s not ANYTHING what our life is like, I’m worried they will underestimate “casual” and wear something too nice.
Can I say something to them about it? Should I even worry? I feel funny saying something now because they’ll think I took them seriously about the ball gown/hoop thing.
I’m not really stressing out about this, but I figured I asked. Thanks!
Post # 3
Definitely! Make her feel special about it. Tell her the mother of the groom must look SPECIAL and DISTINGUISHED and you want to help her pick the best dress!
This happened to a lady I work with..her son is having a casual wedding. She actually bought 3 dresses, got the bride’s ok, and sent the other two back. She was very happy to get the bride’s approval, and I think most FMILs are in that respect.
Post # 4
Awesome indygirl. We have a pretty great relationship and I agree that she would be happy to have my approval. I just don’t know how to make that happen. All we have is email and Skype. Any suggestions?
Post # 5
What about finding a few choices online and sending Future Mother-In-Law the links? You could say something like, “I was just browsing the other day and saw a few things that would look lovely on you for the wedding.” that way, she will see what you had in mind and might be able to use your suggestions as a guide. Or, has your mom found her dress yet? I had my mom email my Future Mother-In-Law a picture of her dress.
Post # 6
i’ve been thinking about taking fmil shopping when she gets to town before the wedding! only downside.. which makes me very sad because she only has one child now, my fh, and she is severly obese and i’m affraid we won’t be able to find something(even thought lane bryant online had some adorable sun dresses!).. so maybe make a bonding experience when she gets to the states and go shopping!!
Post # 7
I’d find some inspirations or some examples of what you think would be appropriate and pass them along.
In other words, I agree 100% with Miss Root.
Post # 8
Ooooooh! Perfect ideas. I’ll make it happen. Thanks!! 🙂