(Closed) FMIL Dress Problems!

posted 12 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
368 posts
Helper bee

I think a dress is just a dress. save your sanity. Let her wear a paper bag if she wants. No one will remember what she wore. I think she is being a little unreasonable because you’ve given her a lot dress choices. Some women just dress a little um "edgier" for their age. It sounds like she’s proud of her body and wants to show it off. Don’t let it stress you out. She can stick out, it will reflect on her not you.

Post # 4
2432 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Clearly, incompetence is not her excuse here. You’ve sent her plenty of suggestions. Unfortunately, you cannot choose her dress for her. If she chooses to wear something completely inappropriate, it is her choice and she will be the only one making it. No one is going to judge you based on what your Future Mother-In-Law wears.

I would say that after all of the suggestions you’ve sent her, she’s either choosing to rebel or feels so uncomfortable in formal gowns that she is choosing something that will feel very comfortable. 

Sorry she’s causing both of you so much stress about this issue. At this point, I would say that since she seems to be ignoring both of your opinions, you’re both just going to have to respect whatever she chooses. 🙁

Post # 5
2640 posts
Sugar bee

Yikes, I undersatnd where you’re coming from.  I’m not sure I would pass judgment that she’s tryingto take your spotlight.  (Could be? But maybe she’s feeling old being called MOG and is simply trying to feel younger.  Who knows.)  I would actually think the lesser of the two evils would be allowing her to wear something that didn’t seem formal enough, than someting that was a very loud color and trashy.  It’s hard to keep at her on this.  You’ve tried. Could your Fi offer to go dress shopping with her?  Sounds weird, but if you do it, you already know there will be conflict. Better your Fiance handle that.  They really do have beautiful MOB dresses out there that aren’t old ladyish.

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