(Closed) FMIL expects us to do a 'viral wedding video'…

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 2
9149 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

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kraykitty:  I would just ignore it. Easy for me to say when I’m not the one bombarded with videos every day, but at least that’s what I think I would do. I am really good at ignoring people though.

Post # 3
13712 posts
Honey Beekeeper

If it was me, I would tell her in no uncertain terms that this is not you and you will not be doing this. You believe a wedding is a joyful but serious occasion and you want no part of a wedding as spectacle or performance. 

I would be especially candid on the chance that she is the one planning something like this.

Post # 4
2176 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

She really wants to go viral And expects entertainment to boot. I would ask her why that is so important in the first place. Your wedding isn’t a reality tv show. Let her know you plan on enjoying yourselves, stage shows not included. 

Post # 5
7638 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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kraykitty:  Does she have a husband or partner? Perhaps your Fiance can have a chat with him, since he’s not getting through to his own mother. Another possibility is to get his sister to talk to her, if he has one.

Post # 6
4037 posts
Honey bee

Your future husband needs to talk to her. Have him tell her, for the last time, the answer is NO! For me, NO is an abbreviation for “NO WAY IN HELL!”

Post # 7
232 posts
Helper bee

Social media has really upped the expectations for proposals and weddings.  Have your Fiance talk to her about it and explain you’re not even having a videographer. It’s stressful enough trying to plan something for yourself, let alone other people! Good luck!

Post # 10
927 posts
Busy bee

Maybe you should just go along with it, tell her you’re planning something and that she needs to stop tagging you in this stuff because it will ruin the surprise. If she asks more questions about it (like what you’re doing or whether you are now having a videographer) just say “we’ve got it all under control” in a wink wink kind of way. Then, when the day comes and you don’t do anything like that, just shrug it off “oh we changed our minds”. 

Post # 11
1887 posts
Buzzing bee

This is so bizarre! Plus, it’s a little obnoxious to expect you to put together some big performance to entertain her, when you’re, you know, planning a wedding. Does she think all weddings do this now?

I was going to suggest the same thing as flossy.lou; if you think it would shut her up, tell her you’re saving the surprise for the very end of the night. Then, when it comes and goes and nothing happens: surprise!

Post # 14
11376 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

Tell her you wouldn’t want to steal her thunder. Surely she will have a viral video soon, crazy mother in laws on the loose. 

Plus, what kind of person thinks you can set out to create a vital video and then it will go viral? Does she know how many people are doing that? It’s like the lottery. 


Post # 15
2455 posts
Buzzing bee

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kraykitty:  omg! My mom does the second thing! She keeps bringing up choreographed dances! And asks if we are practicing and then when we tell her we aren’t doing that she goes, well why not?! You danced, you were a cheerleader, and you acted it shouldn’t be a problem for you. ( mind you all of those except acting were from around 3Rd grade, they dont count as doimg it) don’t be a chicken do something fun! It gets super annoying, I just always retaliate with if you do a dance, I will. That shuts her up until the next time. I wouldn’t worry about it, just make sure that she doesn’t have anything planned to make your wedding go viral. 

Good luck and congrats!

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