(Closed) FMIL forgot about us…

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1509 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

You aren’t being unreasonable.  Is she more involved in their wedding planning or helping to pay for it?  That can be the only thing I can think of.  The same exact thing has happened with us, but we live 3000 miles away from Future Brother-In-Law and Future Mother-In-Law so, I can understand why she is much more involved with their planning. 

I think that this might be something that you Fiance should discuss with her.  While you are thrilled for Future Brother-In-Law and his Fiance and love hearing their wedding plans, your Fiance might mention that you are feeling a little pushed to the side.  It’s possible that your Future Mother-In-Law doesn’t even realize that she is doing this.  

 

Good luck!!

Post # 4
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3162 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Hmm. Sounds like it is possible she is being a little passive aggressive about the fact that you’re not marrying in her church, near where she lives, etc., which is totally unfair if that is the case.

Post # 6
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1509 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Oh wow, I didn’t realize that you didn’t have your own mom to help out.  Wow, that must really be tough. 

 

I think this is something your Fiance needs to address with her. 

Post # 7
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111 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I kind of know what you mean. My In-Laws haven’t done that, but sometimes I hate it when people who know we’re getting married introduce us as eachother’s boyfriend or girlfriend. I know it’s silly but we’re more serious than that now, and I would like that to be acknowledged. I would say that you or your fiance should talk to her and say something along the lines of “we know you’re buys with FBIL’s wedding, but we would really like your input in our wedding as well. This wedding is supposed to be about both families and we would like to feel like everyone is involved.”

I hope it all works out! good luck!

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