(Closed) FMIL frustrations.

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
1243 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@Pinksapphire:  GAH!  Frustrating!

I would do my best not to worry about it; it’s their problem.  If they come to you right before the wedding and need help, I would just nicely say that you’re really sorry, but you don’t have time to help them and they are going to have to do it themselves.  


Post # 4
2299 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Weird! Sorry you have to deal with this, but I completely agree with @ArwenBride, not your problem. You’re the bride and shouldn’t have to worry about making other people’s travel arrangements…you have enough to deal with already!

Post # 5
1141 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

It sounds clear she does not want you asking her again and again( at least it sounds on purpose). I agree with pp. Just let her do it, it’s not your job to worry about it!

Post # 6
3081 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I agree that it’s not something you have to worry about as it’s not your responsibility, but I also would worry…is it something that Fiance can talk to her about and pin her down on? Maybe he knows how to deal with her better. Good luck!

Post # 9
1629 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

lol yeah…..my Future In-Laws seemed shocked that I wasn’t tracking down addresses of their friends and relatives for them for invitations despite the fact that I don’t know any of them and they gave me a lot of nicknames instead of names making it even harder to track down. Their reasoning? “Well it will be hard for us to look those all up, we don’t know the addresses off the top of our heads”….but I do??? At least you might know the correct city or state to tell people with the same name apart!!!  

The fact that your Future Mother-In-Law starts singing when this or other issues come up is 1 part hilarious 1 part sad and 1 part utterly confusing lol. But it also means she is intentionally dodging it, probably hoping you’ll handle it. I’d tell Fiance that you are not handling it, and he better or make his mom handle it.

I think people honestly don’t realize/remember the sheer amount of time and effort that wedding planning takes, or they think you’re just wedding planning and forget you’re working/studying/doing all the other stuff in your life that needs to happen

Post # 10
1418 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Pinksapphire:  If it makes you feel better my Future Mother-In-Law informed me that FI’s ONLY living grandparent… his grandmother who goes on the roof, does gardening, etc… is too “frail” to fly a few hours to attend our wedding! It will work out, I’m sure!

Post # 11
159 posts
Blushing bee

You know, the first thought that popped into my head was “is this HER MIL?”

Maybe shes sabotaging for the sake that SHE doesnt want to be with her MIL?

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