(Closed) FMIL gave me a funny look when I said…

posted 7 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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1571 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’ve seen a few online that I like, but when I told my Future Mother-In-Law I was liking a blush colored dress she just kind of stared at me and then said “Well, you have time to change your mind.”

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Seeing them in person and tryin them on makes SUCH a difference!  The photos for many of the gowns (at David’s in particular) are terrible!

Be open to trying different styles on, you never know what may work for you. 

Good luck!

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

yeah, it’s totally different. There were several that I saw online and thought, “omg, how gorgeous!” but when I tried them on, I was like “ehhh…” the one that I bought I had hardly cared for the picture! and I love it!

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@HueysLuda: dumb question, but when you say “different”, what do you mean?  

I tried on several (that I ended up posting on my blog, lol) that were really pretty and off the beaten-track (had really pretty black embroidered designs) and i ended up LOVING DB’s Ariel-alternative and that’s a pretty traditional-style gown!  and I’m not a traditional style girl, lol.

DEFINITELY go try on lots of dresses and have fun!  Visit more than one saloon (salon?) and enjoy the dress shopping!  

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@HueysLuda:yup. but you can narrow it down of course, like as you try them on be like, “ok, I definitely don’t like this style.” and then you don’t have to try on any more similar ones. But I would suggest that you try on at least one of each style, even if you don’t think you will like it.

Post # 10
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1271 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@HueysLuda: omg i’m having the same trouble…they all look the same to me.  especially with this country’s current infatuation with strapless poufy ballgowns.  i’m hoping it’ll be different when i start putting on gowns, but that’s probably not going to be for another 5 or 6 months.

Post # 11
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2116 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I don’t think there is any point in choosing  specific dress in photos. A style? sure, get your direction from a magazine but dresses look different on everyone’s bodies.

Post # 12
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9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Definitely agree that you need to stay open minded, the photos can be so deceiving

Post # 13
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2192 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m a simple sweetheart neckline ball gown girl.  No beading. Definitely no lace.

And the dresses I am now drawn to after my first trip to the bridal salon?  All lace trumpets.  Go figure.

For the first trip definitely try on every skirt type(tulip, sheath, ball, princess, a-line) and different necklines too(strapless, sweetheart, cap sleeve, bateau).  Its surprising what you will end up liking on your body.

 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I highly recommend going to David’s Bridal on a weekday and trying on as many different styles of dresses to see which shapes you like best.  I thought hands down I’d be in a mermaid/trumpet or fit and flare gown.  What did i wind up in?  A tulle ballgown.  Go figure.  At least at DB if you go when it’s not busy, you should be able to try on tons of gowns.  Then you’ll be a lot more focused when you go to a bridal boutique that only gives you about 2 hours to try on a few gowns. 

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I felt that way, too.  After a LOT of dress store trips, here’s what I came away with.

1)  Dresses definitely look different in person than in pictures.  They look different on the hanger versus on (I hated the way pretty much every dress looked on the hanger).  Unless you are six feet tall and super skinny, the dresses are going to look really different on you than on the models.  Granted, there are some styles that are fantastic for someone tall and willowy, but most styles actually seem to look a lot better on more average-height girls with more curves.  If you don’t really see yourself in a wedding dress, be aware that the first couple dresses might look weird just because you’re getting used to seeing that image in the mirror.  Doing your hair nicely helps.  Wearing nice shoes.  Doing makeup – though I didn’t really bother with the makeup because I was afraid it would get on the dresses.

2) It is totally OK if the long white dress is not for you.  I must have tried on close to 100 dresses at ten different salons and eventually realized that I didn’t envision myself in a long dress.  There were a couple of Marisa dresses I LOVED but they were out of my budget, and even then I didn’t feel like myself in them.  Some people are not dress people in real life and love the idea of dressing up for a special day.  I realized that even though there were some great dresses out there, being in something full length felt out of place.  I’m wearing a knee-length gown and could not be more psyched about it, but I think if I made that choice without giving the long white wedding dress a good try, I might be feeling some serious dress regret right now.

Go, have fun, be open minded.  Be ready to feel a little awkward.  Ready to find some things that look silly and some things that look amazing.  Then post pictures, please! 🙂  (seriously…. posting way too many dress polls on weddnigbee helped sooooo much!  I am still thankful for the bees who commented on them and helped me choose.)

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