(Closed) FMIL gave me a gift, but??? WTF!!!! VENT

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
457 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

wtf?  yeah, I would be a little upset.  How random!

Post # 4
2116 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

:O …

Post # 5
1019 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I would probably take that book, and smack her with it. WHAT the hell was she thinking?!

Post # 6
2433 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

That really is strange. I would find a nice, archival-quality box, seal it inside, then pack it away in the attic or high up in a closet somewhere for safe keeping. I’m glad you recognize the importance of saving it for his kids, but there is no reason why you need to look at it or even care about it!

Post # 7
2866 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Oh my. I have been in a similar situation and I was not as cool as you, I totally lost my shit. I tip my hat to you madame for not ripping her a new one. 

Post # 8
126 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Maybe it was given with good intentions, aand I agreee with you I wouldn’t want it but you have the right idea about putting it away for the children, I would tell her “thank you I have put it away for the children when they get older” no need to make anything else of it.

Post # 9
4355 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013


I get SORT of.. that she would want you to have a piece of him from such a big part of his life. But maybe in the form of pictures of him there and stuff, NOT NOTES PROFESSING HIS LOVE FOR A WOMAN WHO IS NOT YOU.

What a nutty lady.

Post # 10
1652 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

OMG. Weird. You poor thing! Well done for reacting do calmly and sensibly. Yeah you know they were married, but do you want to read their love letters..NO.

Weird MIL!

Post # 11
5075 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

very very weird.  I’m trying to play devil’s advocate and figure out what she was thinking. . .

I got nothin’

kudos to you for handling it well

Post # 12
1212 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Love your response – whatever her purpose was in giving that to you I have no idea but I do love how you handled it, nicely done!

Post # 14
214 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

You what now!?

A book with letters, sent to and from Fiance from his ex-wife? Why would you want that? Does she mention the ex wife often?

It is odd to me she would have the letters he sent his wife in anycase, but to give it to you is madness.

Could he maybe be letting you know he had it, maybe your Mother-In-Law gave it to him and he wanted you to know how had it?

 I would put it in the garage, forget about it and hope for some kind of damp…


@TexasSpringBride: I have just seen your reply. So she hates you then? To wish death on someone is a biiit much.

She is trying to goad you into a reaction. Don’t give her the satisfaction.

Post # 15
1556 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I am trying to imagine the reasons your Future Mother-In-Law thought you might want that as a gift…and I am coming up empty.  But I think your solution of putting it in storage for now and giving it to FI’s daughters is perfect…although the evil side of me likes charlii.rouge‘s idea of hoping for damp!

Post # 16
3265 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

What the…? How did you manage to not rip her a new one?

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