(Closed) FMIL got professional pictures in the dress before the wedding?

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
2999 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I don’t see this to be too much of a big deal…

Post # 4
5789 posts
Bee Keeper

Wow…and this is bothering you? You should be lucky that all she did was have some pictures taken. Is it really something to be upset about? I don’t think so….

Post # 5
1252 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Honestly, I think you are being kinda silly – it’s her dress, she should be able to wear it and take photos in it if she wants to, who cares?  My stepmother wore an outfit she already had in her closet and had worn many times before.  I couldn’t care less. 

Post # 6
1012 posts
Bumble bee

She is the one wearing the dress not you. If there are spots thats her problem.

Why she needs glamour shots is beyond my comprehension.

Post # 7
1361 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I agree with the PPs.  It’s her dress.  She can wear it wherever she wants whenever she wants.

Post # 8
3696 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Girl- take a breath, relax, chill, it’ll be ok.

She likes the dress, she thinks she looks good – let her get her picture taken!  It’s her dress, not yours.  Be happy that she’ll be feeling good, looking good, and smiling at your wedding!  That was my only requirement for my mothers – pick something that makes you feel like a million bucks, I want you to smile because you know you look good!

You can fix photos if a spot shows up, it really won’t be that big of a deal.  If it bothers you that much point it out to your photographer and he/she can try to hide it as much as possible in posed photos so you won’t have to pay to retouch it. 

Maybe she told you because she just wanted to share something with you?  It was a girl-talk kind of moment.  “Oh I was feeling it and I looked so HOT and they screwed up my dress, but it’s cool!”


Post # 10
4192 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

It sounds like she’s not used to getting dressed up like this, and loved it so much that she wanted to make sure she had photos of herself. The good thing is- she’s not going to try to monopolize your photographer with a personal photo session- she had hers separate from the wedding- actually, she’s being considerate (I’ve seen enough posts on here where family members try to take over the photographer on the wedding day-not cool).

If the dress had been ruined, she could have purchased another one. It’s not tainted- this is fine, really. She didn’t do this with any ill intentions towards you.

Post # 11
3941 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I wouldn’t even be upset if she wore it to another wedding before she was in mine.  This really isn’t something to be upset about. 

Post # 12
4354 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

What?? Are you mad that she potentially damaged the dress? That she got pictures in it? Or that you weren’t invited when she got the pictures? I’m so confused.

It’s clear she is proud of the new dress, you said yourself she has never had a nice gown before. Let her be happy, this is not AT ALL in the realm of things that should get you this upset.

Post # 14
7368 posts
Busy Beekeeper

In the greater scheme of things, its not worth an argument over. She can have glamour shots if she wants, why not, she’s feeling good about herself and the dress. Its not like this a bridesmaid dress.

Post # 16
4464 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think you’re overreacting.  What does it matter that she got these pictures taken?  Sure it’s a little odd, but maybe she was just excited about the dress/wanting to feel confident in it.  And it’s not your fault or your problem if she has any spots on it.  Time to take a step back and chill.

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