Post # 17
I don’t really understand why you’re upset… it’s not like she wore YOUR dress! I brought my Future Mother-In-Law shopping, knowing that she plans on wearing the dress this summer for a cruise before my wedding. I’m happy about it. She might as well get as many uses out of it as she can! As for your Future Mother-In-Law gettin glamour shots done, older women do that when they need a confidence booster because they feel ugly. So she wanted to feel pretty for a day. What’s wrong with that?
Post # 18
I really don’t see the issue here. She loves her dress so she had glamour shots done in it – why does it matter if this was done before the wedding?? I know you are concerned that the dress is ruined now but it sounds like it’s going to be fine. I wouldn’t worry about it.
Post # 19
I have to agree with the other posters. I think you are over reacting on this. It’s her dress to do with as she pleases and if it gets messed up, then it’s her’s to deal with. Maybe she was just so excited about how much she loved the dress that she wanted to share that by letting you know she had pics taken in it.
Post # 20
As someone whose mother decided to direct the photographer where she wanted him for a half an hour while the bridal party was supposed to be getting pictures done. I would much rather that any pictures get taken beforehand rather than during the reception.
I honestly think she was so excited to get dressed up that she wanted some pictures for herself of it. It doesn;t sound like the ddress is ruined so I would just let it go.
Post # 21
I understand your distress.
The only time I would flip out is if she brings her glamour shots and wants them displayed at the wedding or the reception.
Post # 22
I do understand why youre upset. But like PPs have said, it’s really a very small thing. And it’s her dress, she can do what she likes with it really.
Post # 23
I guess it had never occured to you to be happy for her? Happy that she feels so rockin’ about herself that she treated herself to portraits? I’m sure doing that was a very big deal to her as a woman who never got the dress experience during her own wedding. Calm down and let her have her moment.
Post # 24
@Storm0075 – LOL Thanks for telling me that! I hope your photographer did what you wanted!
@GracieFaith – LOL I hope she doesn’t do that!
By the way, I haven’t said anything to her, nor will I. I’m just trying to vent it out. The fact that she got pictures in the dress got under my skin a bit, but I didn’t let it bother me. It was the email that said that she thought she ruined the dress. I feel like that was an unnecessary blurb that she didn’t need to tell us, if it IS in fact ok.
Post # 25
i havent had my day yet, but i have a feeling that you have bigger things on your mind than your guests’ attire. i can almost guarantee you will not spend your wedding day looking at your MIL’s dress. you’ll have a brand new DH who looks smoking hot in his tux and that is all you will care about.
Post # 26
Try not to stress over it – she’s worn the dress now there isnt anything you can do about it.
Post # 27
I’m really confused…did you buy the dress for her? If not, then what are you worried about? That you spent time helping her pick out a dress and she almost ruined it? I think it’s kind of cute that she went out and got pictures in it…she’s excited about how she looks…be happy for her! I honestly don’t think she’s done anything all that wrong here and think you’re getting upset over something really silly.
Post # 28
I’m really not sure of the issue.
You and your Future Mother-In-Law had a nice day dress shopping and going out to lunch. She felt so confident in the dress that she decided to get glamour shots taken in it. She spent her own money on the photos, hair, and makeup. The dress got dirty. She got the dress dry-cleaned and it looks fine.
Why did she share this with you, you wonder? Maybe she wanted you to know how excited she was that she found a dress that she looks and feels great in!
Post # 29
Um, I don’t see the issue, I don’t really think there is one.
Keep Calm and Marry on 🙂
Post # 30
Probably not what you’re wanting to hear but if my Future Mother-In-Law did this I would think it was so incredibly sweet. She likes the dress so much and wants to remember the moment enough to go and get professional photos done. Be happy she didn’t take pictures of YOUR dress, now that is the dress that matters! 😉
Post # 31
Maybe it would help if you tried to put yourself in her shoes. I’m making a big assumption here and could be completely off but from the way you said she bought her wedding dress it doesn’t sound like she’s the type of person who buys beautiful or expensive things for herself very often. I imagine she probably feels about her dress about like how you feel about your dress – totally excited to wear it and confident and beautiful with it on. Though getting her hair and makeup done in the dress was probably not the best decision I would guess her thought process was that after wearing it for a whole day, eating in it, dancing in it, probably sweating in it, the dress wouldn’t look as good after the wedding and she wants something about it, how beautiful it makes her feel and the significance of wearing it for the wedding to hold on to in the future. You’re getting bridal portraits, right???
As long as the dress isn’t messed up I’d cut her some slack, and if it is its really her responsibility to deal with getting it fixed. Its easy to stress out about everything leading up to the wedding, but I’d just try to focus on what you’re doing to get ready and let what she’s doing roll of your back.