(Closed) FMIL has her info wrong

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
11233 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013


Why the fuck did she think that was appropriate to talk about?

Post # 4
163 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@missjuli:  If the conversation comes up you can politely correct her, and those who have been told the wrong thing. But ultimately it’s not a big deal and you don’t need to dwell on it.

If I was told that about someone unless I was planning on trying IVF I would probably forget it to be honest, it’s just a small misunderstanding in my opinion. 🙂

Post # 6
2269 posts
Buzzing bee

@missjuli:  Pardon my French but.

What the actual fuck? How is a person’s conception EVER appropriate to discuss in a SPEECH?

What? Just. What? I can’t even. 

Post # 8
747 posts
Busy bee

@Chrysoberyl:  This!  

Good lord woman!  Why on earth would she bring this up during a speech?  Holy moly.  :/

Post # 9
2297 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

so take her aside and let her know that while you’re sure she meant no harm, you felt that it was innapropriate of her to speak about such personal things (especially since it didn’t involve her) and that actually, you were not conceived via ivf. 

say it nicely, and then watch all the colour drain from her face. all. of. it. 

and yes, she will be embarrassed (as she should be) but embarassment never killed anyone, and at least you’ll have the decency to set her straight in private. 

AND i doubt she’ll be doing that again. ie – her wedding toast, rehearsal dinner etc. i’d rather embarrass her slightly now so that she can zip her lip for the rest of my life. 

Post # 11
2598 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@missjuli:  I…find it bizzare that your Future Mother-In-Law gave a speech at your bridal shower that contained information (correct or incorrect) involving your and your brothers conception.  WTF?  What point was she trying to make exactly?  Why would she think this was appropriate to discuss in a room full of people?  Even if she felt you would be okay with it – what about your parents?  Why does she even have any of this information anyway?

While I”m sure the speech was well intentioned – it was way, way off base.  Perhaps you or your Fiance could have a quiet, “oh, by the way…” type conversation with your Future Mother-In-Law and just say that you were, actually conceived naturally but these details are really something you would prefer be kept within the family. 


Post # 12
3194 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@peonyinlove:  +1 i’d be concerned she’ll get up and talk about it in a speech at the wedding. you or Fiance should at least set her straight on the issue and let her know you were really embarrassed.

Post # 13
4495 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Even if it were true, that is kind of an odd thing to talk about at a shower. I feel like thats pretty private information…

Post # 14
209 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I would take her aside and just chat with her, telling her that you were a little surprised that she would share such intimate details about your start-of-life with the guests. She probably wasn’t trying to share intimate details, but was just trying to explain that you are a special person. The fact that she has the details incorrect isn’t as much of a concern to me, those can be laughed at later while enjoying a few glasses of wine.

Post # 15
1491 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Um.  Oh dear.


i second talking to her about it and mentioning that you would prefer that intimate family details like that should be kept only between family…not mentioned in speeches.  Ever.  Ever ever ever.

my god, what a speech blooper!

Post # 16
7647 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I would most definitely talk to her about this, whether she feels bad or not. She needs to know this was NOT ok to say and it wasn’t ok to give false information. She needs to get her facts straight before she talks to people. It wasn’t her business to tell.

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