(Closed) FMIL + Invite List = …Silence

posted 4 years ago in Family
Post # 3
714 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Yes, send your invites to those you have on your list and give her the extras. And you can tell her you don’t want to hound her for addresses so you thought you’d give her your extra invitations. 🙂

Post # 4
2977 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I really don’t think that is a bad plan.  I would just run by your FI once to ask if there was anyone he could think of that his mom would like to invite. 

Post # 5
1561 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@ShabbyChicBee:  She knows the timeline. I’d just let her know that anyone you don’t have an address for by the time you send invites simply won’t get an invitation. That’s what I’ve done. I hate not including some of my fiance’s family, but without addresses, it’s impossible. 

Post # 6
45636 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@ShabbyChicBee:  I would let her know an absolute deadline date, after which no more people will be invited.

If she wants someone invited who is not already on your list, she needs to get their names and complete address and phone # (in case you need to follow up lack of rsvp’s)  to you by that date, or they are not invited- period.

Some people never start work until there is a concrete deadline.

Post # 7
2609 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@ShabbyChicBee:  Havecyour FI call her and tell her that you need her list by x date and if you don’t have it by then, you will assume she doesn’t want to add anyone to the guest list. He needs to add that while he appreciates that she’s busy, so are the two if you and that you won’t be having guest list conversations that should have taken place six months ago or scrambling to get out last minute invitations. 

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