(Closed) FMIL invited someone to shower not invited to wedding. HELP!

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2512 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Man that is really tough.

I would feel SO insulted if I was invited to a shower and not a wedding. I would honestly think you were just trying to use me for a gift.

Does this person know that she is not invited? Or do you think she will be expecting an invite?

Post # 4
828 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

honestly, I think my mother did the same – what’s worse? I don’t know! 

I wasn’t in charge of the guest list for the shower.. but I believe she invited my two cousins. Neither showed or sent a gift. 

For the wedding, I sent out most of the invites but there were a few that my mother was responsible for. (It wasn’t that formal, and we could’ve squeezed a few folks in without any problems) But I certainly didn’t want to be rude & not send them an invite! 🙁 To this day, I just don’t know… 

Post # 5
374 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

tell the people who aren’t invited to the wedding that you’re so thankful they were able to celebrate at your shower since you had to keep the guestlist at the wedding so small. it worked for me but my situation had to do with not inviting kids. i hope it works out for you!

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