(Closed) FMIL invited two people not on our wedding guest list to my shower…

posted 8 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

OH DEAR, I’m sorry you’re having to go through that. But, think… the more people, the more gifts haha! Your mother doesn’t seem to be too frazzled about it, and you can have multiple showers. Consider this “his” and then have a really intimate one where you invite your friends and close family.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Wow, that’s awful. Have the invites to the shower been mailed?

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

@christalynn11: I am so sorry. I felt very strongly about not inviting anyone to the shower who wasn’t invited to the wedding. Can you ask your Future Mother-In-Law to contribute to the cost of inviting these two extra people to the wedding? I know that’s not the only issue, but, if it were me, would want Future Mother-In-Law to understand that her actions have consequences for others.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

What are the cost to invite these two people (and possibly their guests) to the wedding?

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would check with your Future Mother-In-Law.

In many areas it is in fact the custom to invite people to a wedding shower who are not invited to the wedding. Where I live, brides may have several showers- given by co-workers, the grooms family, friends etc .Dozens of people are invited to showers who are not expecting an invitation to the wedding.

If this is the experience of your Future Mother-In-Law and the 2 ladies she invited to the shower, they may simply be happy to attend the shower.

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