(Closed) FMIL inviting everyone in the world.

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
10453 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

Definitely your fiancé should get involved here and tell her to cut it out! You could always set a rule that past this point, any additional invites are on her dime. Or tell her there is no more room. I am thinking my FMiL will want to try the same thing so we are going hard and strong on a number for her, and she has already agreed to pay for the people my fiancé doesn’t even know.

Post # 4
333 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Involve your fiance to reason with her. If he doesn’t say anything, I’m sorry to say you’re probably out of luck. Where does he stand on all of this?

It’s my firm belief that the people paying for a majority of the wedding are the ones who decide the guest list. If her inviting extra people to your wedding is going to cause you/your fiance a lot of extra money, he really needs to talk to her. Hopefully invites havent gone out yet!

Post # 5
864 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

If there is room at the venue and you don’t mind extra guest I would suggest your Fiance ask her to pay for those people. If you don’t want to increase your guest list your Fiance needs to be the one to tell her this is not ok.

Post # 6
786 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Unfortunately for her, if shes not paying, she has to play by your rules. And if that means that you only want 5 of her friends invited, that’s what she has to do. Its so rude to invite everyone youve ever met on someone else’s dime. If she wants to invite all those people (and your venue can hold them and your fine with having a larger group of people), I would tell her she absolutely must pay for them.

Post # 7
4193 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

You’re sending out the wedding invites, right? Then you tell her- “you have XX number of invites for friends/family” and stick to that number.

Post # 8
4464 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Since they do have the $$ to throw around I would have your Fiance approach them firmly and say: This is what we can as far as our budget and venue. If you would like to add people we will let you know what the cost is to accomodate those. If you don’t want to do that, then we need you to stick to this number of people.

Post # 9
3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Actually judging from their addittude I wouldnt’ tell them to pay for their extra guest so they can invite a bunch of strangers to your wedding. I say give them a number and stick with it. –

Post # 10
1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Yeah, I just got my invitation last week. Cool

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