(Closed) FMIL inviting unexpected guests to bridal shower

posted 3 years ago in Parties
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

Wow, how out of line of your FMIL! Why would she invite people to a party she isn’t hosting??

I’d reach out to her IMMEDIATELY, tell her that there was a mistake, that she shouldn’t have invited those people, that your aunts had a strict cap, and you’re sorry about any miscommunication that indicated that this was an open invitation. Alert your aunts to the fact that more people were invited, but you believe it’s taken care of. i’d probably give my aunts my FMIL’s number so they can talk with her instead. Maybe my aunts would offer to let her pick up the tab for the extra guests, maybe they wouldn’t. It’s on you to start to repair this, because Future Mother-In-Law told you, but they can work out the details on thier own. 

Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would let your aunts know what you learned and let them talk to your Future Mother-In-Law. They are the hosts. You are the guest of honor.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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underblueskies1016 :  Contact Future Mother-In-Law right away, and explain the guest cap. Also, I dont know about your group, but its usually a womens only event, and I think the guys would be really bored. I know its not the exact same thing but I helped throw a baby shower for Future Sister-In-Law, and her husband, Father and husband of one of her friends insisted on coming. We didnt have constraints, so we let them come. Lets just say they were all bored (except when FSIL’s husband was opening gifts).

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

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underblueskies1016 : Just tell her no. Wtf? Plus why do the men on her side get to come but yours don’t? All of this is so sh*tty.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I’d avoid getting caught in the middle by contacting the aunts ASAP so they could discuss things with your Future Mother-In-Law. I’d be worried that if you talk to your Future Mother-In-Law and tell the aunts it’s handled, your Future Mother-In-Law might not listen. Then you’d look like the bad guy. 

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

Yeah I’d be worried about the fact that the men on your in-laws side are invited but yours isn’t.  Also does this mean your groom gets to come now?  I’d want to come if I were him.  So that would add a LOOOOOT more people.  I’d definitely talk to Future Mother-In-Law.  If it were me I’d be afraid of my aunts just saying it’s okay when it’s really not.  So I’d tell Future Mother-In-Law that the men aren’t invited, sorry for the confusion.

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