- 3 years ago
I am sure I am probably overreacting, but I am not sure how to feel about this…
My aunts have graciously offered to throw me a bridal shower. They are paying for everything and have not asked for any money from my mother, my Future Mother-In-Law, or my bridesmaids. At first, I was unsure about it because I didn’t really want to have a bridal shower, but now that it is only a couple of weeks away, I am getting excited.
After I agreed to allowing them to throw me one, they asked me for a guest list, but told me that their budget could not accomodate more than about 35 people. Totally fine! I provided them a list of close female family members on both my fiance’s side of the family as well as mine. I also included my bridesmaids and a few close female friends.
The RSVP date has passed, and I was so excited to see that all 35 we had invited, RSVPd “yes!”
Now, several weeks after the RSVP date has passed, my Future Mother-In-Law has informed us that she invited my Future Father-In-Law, Future Brother-In-Law, as well as several husbands of other people on her side of the family and that they will all be coming as well. And, as far as I’m aware, she only told me this… not my aunts or even my mom.
Now, I have no issue with men being at the bridal shower at all! I am concerned though, that with the additional husbands added on, we are now over the 35 person limit my aunts requested. (Adding the additional men on brings the count up to 47.) Obviously I want to respect my aunts’ request since they are so kindly paying for the whole thing… but at the same time, I don’t want to get in the middle of it.
Am I wrong if I have a conversation with my Future Mother-In-Law about how we cannot accomodate the extras? I don’t want my Future Father-In-Law or Future Brother-In-Law to feel slighted, especially, but we did make it very clear on the invitations who was invited.
Or should I inform my aunts of these extra people and have them talk to my Future Mother-In-Law (who they have never met or interacted with) if they choose to since they are the hosts?