(Closed) FMIL is being a PITA – Vent

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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285 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

That is annoying. Out of 250 though 16 over isn’t too bad. Any chance you’ll have that many regrets and not have to chop anyone? Is she paying at all or just adding people for you to foot the bill because she wants a bigger representation of her side? Take it as a compliment though, she probably just wants all her friends to see your big fancy wedding 😉

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

my Mother-In-Law invited like so many people I didn’t know to my first wedding…  yea, i’m over that…

16 really isn’t that much over, in comparison to who you have coming already.  Is she footing the bill?  then let her invite them.  However, if YOU are paying, maybe you could just have a talk with her since you said she is “kind and generous”  I am sure she means no harm or anything…  ya know? 

but if she is paying… I say the more the merrier!  (thats just my take on it)

Post # 5
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7300 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

You probably won’t have all 250 rsvp yes. So 16 over isn’t too bad. I wouldn’t fight about it. Pick your battles. 

Post # 8
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1636 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Ms. Peach:  OMG that is so sad:(  is there any other way you an cut costs so he can have more people, and you guys can invite more “b” listers?  Can you cut the flower budget?  or the beverage budget?  anything???  What about favor budget?  maybe you were planning on doing favors and now you can nix them??? 

(just trying to be helpful) 

 

good luck hun!

Post # 10
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1636 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Ms. Peach:  well, maybe, if its possible, you can give your Future Mother-In-Law a #… like 10… and say she is allowed to invite 10 people, because there are some people YOU guys, as a couple really want there, and were afraid you wouldn’t be able to invite as well?  And you are okay with splitting this list with her (this way she will think she is getting the priviledge of inviting 10 people, when you only have so many spots left, make sense…  it may not be true, but if she feels that way, she will be happy, it doesn’t have to be 10, i’m just using an example) 

Anyhow I think she would feel thankful that you respected her enough to give her her own guest list (maybe even give her 10 (or whatever #) invitations and allow them to mail them out herself.

This is just a thought…

Good Luck!

Ronney

 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee

That’s just one of those situations you have to make the best of it. It’s annoying and it sucks, but it could be a lot worse.

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