(Closed) FMIL is getting out of hand!

posted 9 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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52 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

You and your Fiance should sit down together and discuss what you two want for your wedding.  Then he can explain to his mother what that is.  It is his job to straighten her out. 

Post # 4
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388 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

Definitely talk it out.  If you allow it to just ride, it’s going to be a miserable year.

I agree that you & your Fiance should discuss what you both want first & foremost.  If it’s possible, I feel that both of you present a united front and talk to Future Mother-In-Law together.  If you allow Fiance to do it alone, he might buckle into the pressure because it’s his mom, OR, he won’t completely explain it they way you would. 

Men & women are so different in how we process info.  To help lay down the path to a great wedding, you should be involved in that conversation with Future Mother-In-Law, too. Plus, it’s a step towards demonstrating that you and Fiance really are together in this for the rest of your lives, and it starts with the wedding.

Post # 5
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408 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Appleblossom, I feel your pain!  My first wedding was very elaborate and the party of the century, but I didn’t foot the $90,000 dollar bill.  This time around I am fine having a nice wedding which I believe can be done for WAY LESS than the amount that was spent on my first wedding. My Future Mother-In-Law has champagne taste on a beer budget.  She is going to pitch in but we don’t know how much, so I don’t want to let her go crazy with all the stuff she wants since it is her only son’s wedding when we don’t know how much she is helping us with the wedding.

I would definetly have your Fiance talk to her first and then after he has given her a hint, ya’ll two can sit down with her and see where ya’ll can meet in themiddle.

Post # 6
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2641 posts
Sugar bee

Funny she wants all kinds of elaborate stuff, but is only willing to give so mcuh.  I think you and your Fi need to figure out how much you are spending and what the budget is.  Figure out how you ar paying for every aspect of the wedding on your own. Then if Future Mother-In-Law wants something grander, that fits in with your vision, well enough, tell her she can have it, if she pays for it.

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