(Closed) FMIl is going to be the death of maybe literally

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

What is she doing?

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

@mrsrigsby60:  Maybe it is time to take a planning break, or at least a Mother-In-Law break. Plenty of time until the wedding to get things done, take some time off and recoop:) Sayings like “Actually I already have that covered” will need to become your mantra.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Ugh- I’ve read your other posts, and she is a piece of work.

Can you get Fiance to deal with her instead? I had Darling Husband step in and respond to all of his Mom’s emails towards the end, when it was getting to be too much for me.

I agree with MrsMeNow- a little planning break can be great- “I’m taking a break from wedding things this weekend,” etc. Those little breaks can go a LONG way towards keeping your mental health intact before the wedding. And yoga was a Godsend for me!

 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I was having serious Future Mother-In-Law issues. My boss noticed I Was stressed. she got me a fake voodoo doll. lol if nothing else, it gives me a chuckle and reminds me there are people on my side.

I have no real advice, but hope you figure it out 🙁 I was in your shoes and was losing it…. now I don’t talk to Future Mother-In-Law at all and it’s just bad vibes all around 🙁

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@mrsrigsby60:  For your own physical and mental health, I suggest you stop letting this woman push your buttons.

It is possible to listen to all sorts of suggestions/criticisms and have them slide off like water off a duck.

Years ago I learned the following technique whenI worked in the ER.

Picture yourself with a veil that covers you from head to toe. Nothing she says can penetrate that veil. If  it can’t penetrate the veil it cannot hurt you, cause you stress or pain.

Get the extra sturdy version of the veil.

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Why did you cut your friends and family? Can’t you just say “no. you are only allotted ‘x’ number of invites.” I mean, I understand that she is a difficult woman and, trust me, I really feel for you, but you are allowing her to take advantage.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Get a massage and tell them you have a migraine, really it helps.  Go to the dr and get a sample for migraine meds and keep some so you can use them next time. When you figure out what works, get a prescription for it and keep it. This stuff really does work if you find the right drug.

Now,for the Mother-In-Law. Does Fiance stand up to her? He needs to. And so do you. You are never going to make her happy and she will push you as far as she can. If she’s inviting ppl and they don’t get an invite, let HER explain it to them. This is YOUR wedding. Practice saying no. This sets her up to dictate your marriage also, and I don’t think you want that. 

Rest up and feel better! Good luck.

 

 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

@carolsdaughter:  Why did you cut your friends and family? Can’t you just say “no. you are only allotted ‘x’ number of invites.” I mean, I understand that she is a difficult woman and, trust me, I really feel for you, but you are allowing her to take advantage.

Agreed. 

At least take a day or two off and go get a massage and/or a manicure or a pedicure or facial…something to pamper yourself and calm yourself down.  The fact that your body is tingling is NOT normal, and not a good sign.  If it’s just stress, a good massage can help you work out some of that tension and help with the tingling, (I’m a massage therapist, and between that and being on the computer in my spare time, my shoulders, neck, and pecs get really tight, and I get occasional tingling down my arm(s) – GETTING massage helps keep me loose enough to stop that).

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

@bella128:  Get a massage and tell them you have a migraine, really it helps.


LOL!  I see we think alike!  

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