- 7 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
We had our son earlier this year and ever since then there has been nothing but drama and tension with my fmil. She lives a few hours away so I understand she cant see her grandson as much as she would like to but she has become so cold toward me that its getting too much to handle. Let me back up…. She helped me a lot the first 2 weeks when he was born which I appreciated but eventually she started taking over basically taking the baby from me and not letting me do anything! Being my 1st baby the over bearing control REALLY got to me. One day I eventually had enough (mixed with lack of sleep) and basically told her how I felt which I admit probably could have been done a bit better but I wasnt rude. She then retold the storey to my Fiance and a bunch of people in his family however the way she recalled it didnt actually happen (which I now notice is a trend with all her stories). Since then we havent got along well however I have tried to make the effort to send pictures and invite her over for visits etc but no luck. It doesnt matter what I say, its always somehow twisted or manipulated so she is the victim. We are getting married next year and I dont want to live the rest of my life like this but I honestly just give up. I could go on and on but everytime we talk to her we basically end in bad terms because its always about her! Luckily my Fiance sees what is going on and doesnt side with her (even though she has asked him to on multiple occassions) but things shouldnt be this way. Im convienced shes crazy… I dont want this to ruin our marriage before it starts… Any suggestions?