(Closed) FMIL is now engaged and getting married in less than 2 mo!

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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1398 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Ew.  That seems like a direct dig at you 🙁  I don’t think you’re being irrational at all.  Don’t let her hijack your wedding.  Grit your teeth and smile through hers, and once it’s over, it’s over.  Don’t let it overshadow yours! 

Post # 4
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3461 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Give her the benefit of the doubt…it’s possible she, like some other waiting bees, has been patiently waiting 10 years and this finally gave her bf the kick needed to get him moving.  Just don’t let her have the mic at your rehearsal dinner or wedding.  🙂

Post # 6
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1501 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

That would drive me nuts. But maybe now that she has her own wedding to focus on she won’t try and have her way so much with yours. One can hope!

 

Post # 7
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3461 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Well, fortunately now you have a great reply to change requests, “FMIL, I’m excited to see how that looks at your wedding!  At ours, we’ve decided to do Y.”

This is just my two cents, which is worth precisely what you pay for it, but….  If she’s asked before and been refused, it seems the timing of this engagement is definitely on the bf’s shoulder’s, not hers.  It’s frustrating that it seems like she’s copying you/stealing your limelight, but as a waiting bee myself, I would hate to feel like I had to hold off on the timing of my relationship in order to please someone else (and I’ve only been dating 3 years!  I can’t imagine 10.)  At least the dates are separated by a few months. 

Post # 8
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1553 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I agree that the timing seems a bit odd.  After ten years, why now, right before your wedding.  And I can see that being especially annoying as she’s been a bit difficult during your wedding planning.

But is it possible that her Fiance asked her now because at your wedding he wants to be your FI’s stepfather and the MOG’s husband?  Maybe he wants to be an official member of the family and no longer just “Mom’s boyfriend”?

Post # 9
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155 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I WISH my Future Mother-In-Law would get married sp she can stop trying to treat her son(my FH)like her husband.

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