Post # 1
So my Future Mother-In-Law keeps contacting my fiance, asking if he knows any details about my bachelorette party…ugh!
My Maid/Matron of Honor has planned a night with just the bridesmaids and I’m really looking forward to it but not with her there! My own mother told me she has no interest in the party because she said it should just be the girls cutting loose (and I agree with that). It would be weird to have only my Future Mother-In-Law there with my friends, plus she’s a hard partier and can get a little sloppy when it comes to alcohol.
I was thinking of just saying the party was a surprise to avoid the confrontation directly before the wedding but it feels wrong….
Post # 3
@EvelynnFaith: Just tell her you have no idea about any details….and then when she asks (after you’ve already had it) just say oh it was a surprise by my Maid/Matron of Honor. I think its weird that she wants to go..its really no place for a Mother-In-Law.
Post # 4
yeah, i think it’s kind of odd for Future Mother-In-Law to attend. But, depending on what activities you’re having, you could include her on something, maybe? I had a friend whose Future Mother-In-Law came to just dinner, but then we went out afterwards without her.
Post # 5
But if this woman is a partier, then she would most likely tag along or want to go out anyway.
Could you have 2 bach parties?? Thats what I am doing.
I want to go and have a great fantastic time with my girlfriends, and MY mother and FI’s Mother BOTH want to come…. I do not want this. How are we (the brides) supposed to have fun with Mothers there?? Now, im sure some people dont mind partying it up with their moms… but not for me. lol.
SO, my girls and friends are having OUR bach party, and then on another weekend we are just gonna go to a few bars or something low key with the moms and aunts.
Post # 6
You could always have Fiance tell her that he thinks its just going to be girlfriends and that’s it, and that bachelorettes are typically friend only events, or something like that. I mean, I think in some instances, honesty is the best policy
Post # 7
@EvelynnFaith: Since she is contacting your Fiance about it, and not you, ask him to please say he knows no details other than it is just for you and your bridesmaids, as that is indeed what he knows of it, yes? If she has a problem with that and then contacts you, tell her the same answer as sweetly as possible. “My Maid/Matron of Honor is planning this for just me and my bridesmaids/friends. I look forward to celebrating with you on the wedding day itself.” Be honest, and put a stop to it, and don’t be afraid to stand your ground. It is she that is being rude trying to nudge her way into your party.
Post # 8
I would just tell her it’s a surprise, anything else seems like it would start unwanted drama. It’s very strange that she wants to join anyway.
Post # 9
Awkward! I can’t imagine my Mom or Future Mother-In-Law attending mine, personally!
I think you should go with the “MOH is surprising me/surprised me” thing, honestly. I know some people believe honesty is the best policy, but I agree with the PP that said the truth might cause some unwanted drama.