(Closed) FMIL is trying to invite her self to the bachelorette party! Help!

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
1235 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@EvelynnFaith: Just tell her you have no idea about any details….and then when she asks (after you’ve already had it) just say oh it was a surprise by my Maid/Matron of Honor. I think its weird that she wants to go..its really no place for a Mother-In-Law. 

Post # 4
328 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

yeah, i think it’s kind of odd for Future Mother-In-Law to attend. But, depending on what activities you’re having, you could include her on something, maybe? I had a friend whose Future Mother-In-Law came to just dinner, but then we went out afterwards without her.

Post # 5
786 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

But if this woman is a partier, then she would most likely tag along or want to go out anyway.

Could you have 2 bach parties?? Thats what I am doing.
I want to go and have a great fantastic time with my girlfriends, and MY mother and FI’s Mother BOTH want to come…. I do not want this. How are we (the brides) supposed to have fun with Mothers there?? Now, im sure some people dont mind partying it up with their moms… but not for me. lol.

SO, my girls and friends are having OUR bach party, and then on another weekend we are just gonna go to a few bars or something low key with the moms and aunts.

Good Luck!!!

Post # 6
7431 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

You could always have Fiance tell her that he thinks its just going to be girlfriends and that’s it, and that bachelorettes are typically friend only events, or something like that. I mean, I think in some instances, honesty is the best policy

Post # 7
2053 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@EvelynnFaith: Since she is contacting your Fiance about it, and not you, ask him to please say he knows no details other than it is just for you and your bridesmaids, as that is indeed what he knows of it, yes? If she has a problem with that and then contacts you, tell her the same answer as sweetly as possible. “My Maid/Matron of Honor is planning this for just me and my bridesmaids/friends. I look forward to celebrating with you on the wedding day itself.” Be honest, and put a stop to it, and don’t be afraid to stand your ground. It is she that is being rude trying to nudge her way into your party.

Post # 8
2691 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I would just tell her it’s a surprise, anything else seems like it would start unwanted drama. It’s very strange that she wants to join anyway.

Post # 9
7606 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Awkward!  I can’t imagine my Mom or Future Mother-In-Law attending mine, personally!

I think you should go with the “MOH is surprising me/surprised me” thing, honestly.  I know some people believe honesty is the best policy, but I agree with the PP that said the truth might cause some unwanted drama.

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