(Closed) FMIL is wearing a dress that is nicer than my BM’s!

posted 9 years ago in Family
Post # 62
186 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think you are definetly worrying a little too much about this.  You can not dictate what anybody wears to your wedding except the wedding party. That is just bad manners otherwise.

That being said, if someone chooses to stand out by dressing too formal for the type of wedding you are having, or wearing white/ivory or anything of the sort…They will be the ones to look foolish. Dont worry about it. You have other things to worry about. Besides, It is pretty standard for the mothers to dress nice.

As for singing to her and all that….she sounds self centered definetly, but you dont have to do any birthday singing that you dont want to. Who will intiate it if you dont….her?? She will certainly look foolosh and if thats the case let it happen. She will be the one looking like a self centered loon.


Good luck! Remember what this is all about. You and your future hubby!

Post # 63
376 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I don’t think you are upset about the dress. I think you are upset that she is trying to make your wedding about her (or at the very least that’s how you feel). You are just focusing on something tangible but it probably has more to do with her comments. Talk to your Fiance about it. Tell him you don’t’ want it to be a birthday party and have him gently nudge her away from those comments. She may not realize that they are upsetting and she will probably stop when asked.

Post # 64
3048 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

Well you’ve already gotten tons of feedback about the issue, but I love my two cents so here it goes! I would be annoyed at my Future Mother-In-Law as well. But I also see myself just being like whatever… she can do what she wants to do. Especially since she walks down the aisle and sits down. Yea the pictures will looks interesting, but for me, I am excited about pictures with my fiance, and pictures with my attendants. I could care less about the posed shots of family. Plus, I’m used to seeing mother’s “personalities” come out a weddings. Some moms really love to dress up and have updated fashion. Some mothers have fashion, but don’t want to be too dressy. Others look like they’re grandmas… it just depends on the personality.

Like I said before I would be annoyed. But my BMs stressed me out so much that I’m not worrying about anyone else’s clothing! That includes two BMs who are pregnant and haven’t ordered yet (they will eventually or they won’t be in the wedding, whatev) AND my mom, his mom, whoever’s mom. I say this all because it’s what I would personally do. But I think it’s fine for you to be stressed/annoyed at those things in your own wedding. There is always something to be stressed about…. you probably weren’t stressed about your mom being overly involved (like I was, ugh).

Have your bridezilla moment! We need those to reassure ourselves that our wedding is… well ours, not theirs! 🙂

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