(Closed) FMIL just crossed a line….super long – sorry!

posted 5 years ago in Family
  • poll: How did you crazy MIL affect your marriage?
    We have gotten a divorce because of her : (3 votes)
    9 %
    Things are quite rocky because of her : (6 votes)
    18 %
    It affects us every now and then but we tend to ignore her : (14 votes)
    42 %
    It hasn't! We don't give a flying [email protected]#$ what she says : (10 votes)
    30 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    6210 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

    I would cut this woman out of your life if she continues to berate you like that. Your Fiance has a choice to make IMO, and I HATE it when it comes down to that, but he has to have a talk with her, and if that doesn’t work, I don’t know what will other than some cold, hard silence from your end to make her see that doing things your way for your wedding is better than not being there at all

    Post # 4
    Member
    143 posts
    Blushing bee

    @sheiskillingmysoul:  First off she is psycho. Second, it’s YOUR wedding and it is not for your parents nor her. Third, if she wants to act like a two year old just let it be. She will get over it. Sorry you have to go through this.

    Post # 5
    Member
    3766 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    Holy crap, I don’t know where to start. Elope and move far, far away?

    *hug* is about the best I can do.

    Post # 6
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    2363 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013 - B&B

    I don’t know that I have much in the way of advice, but if you also want sympathy I’ll give you some! I cannot BELIEVE how this woman has acted. She is literally throwing a fit because she isnt’ getting her way about something that IS NOT hers. Her comment that the wedding wasn’t for you two, it’s for your parents and her? WOW. No, actually, if you went just the two of you to the JOP that would certainly indeed be a WEDDING. So yes, the wedding is for you two.

    I think a lot of this has to do with she is having a very hard time (to say the least) about letting her son go. And her son is willing to stand up to her for you both. At this point, I would kind of let him take over. Continue with wedding plans and DO NOT INCLUDE HER AT ALL. And anytime she gets pushy allow your Fiance to tell her whats up. She will either come to the realization that SHE has pushed everyone away with her awful behavior, or she won’t but at the very least she’s somewhat out of the picture. I think the only person she may listen to is her son… she’s so blind to her actions that I think the only way she may come a little to her senses is to feel like she has pushed away her own son by being so hateful and controlling.

    Post # 7
    Member
    1685 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I think you are treating her with far more respect than she deserves.  At this point, who cares if she likes you? Let her have her freak outs, appease her if you must, but have your wedding, your way.

    Post # 9
    Member
    5423 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Yes. Elope.  Maybe she’ll have a reality check.

    Post # 11
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    11752 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    what a psychoooo she needs therapY! I’m gla dyour Fiance is on your side. I couldn’t live with it – not saying you guys should not get married, just saying I would not have anything to do with her. If Fiance wants to see her fine but I would not be going with him!

    And I thought my mom was crazy!! WOW! just WOW!

    Post # 12
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    404 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    If your Fiance doesnt even know how to handle this situation then how are you supposed to know?

    I think you need to talk with him more about this and what it means for your future. I would have NOTHING to do with anyone who spoke to me like that… AT ALL!

    There is no way I would be showing up to this wedding that she has invited you to (which is also not hers!) I would not do her the curtoesy of telling her I wasnt going.

    Post # 13
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    8279 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I’d have a smaller/less expensive wedding and tell her you don’t need the money…it’s not worth the headache IMO.

    Post # 15
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    1854 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    STOP CARING WHAT SHE THINKS STOP TALKING TO HER

    you are never going to be buddies with her. You might never be friends. She might never even like you. You need to somehow become ok with that. Write her off, pretend she’s not real and move on.

    She’s psyco. Why do you want to be friends with psyco?

    If Fiance an only son? Does he still live with his mom? Maybe she’s not “ready to lose her son”. Some moms go crazy when their babies get married.

    Post # 16
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    2553 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Wooow! I just made a post this morning about frustrations with the future in laws. Nothing compared to this. I mean, i even spent thanksgiving with them and ended up sitting on the curb outside thier house crying because I was yelled at in their own home about wedding plans. But this, what you are explaining, I cant even imagine how you feel right now and I’m so sorry.

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