(Closed) FMIL let a major detail of my gown slip to fiance

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
9916 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

That sucks, but you should accept her apology.

Post # 4
13251 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If you didn’t want him to know anything about it, you shouldn’t have brought up any details relating to your wedding look around him.  It was a mistake, she apologized, and now you need to accept it and move on.

Post # 6
160 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

He’s a bloke, he probably wasn’t even paying attention if you were discussing accessories!

Post # 8
1686 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

It was an accident. Let it go and accept her apology. 🙂

Post # 10
11418 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I agree with prior posters who said it sounds as if this was a harmless mistake. Yes, your Fiance now knows your gown has a black sash, but nothing your Future Mother-In-Law said will really take away from the awesome surprise of your Fiance seeing you in your dress for the first time. I would strongly suggest that you not wait “a day or two” before accepting your FMIL’s apology and that you do so today, in a polite manner. You definitely do not want something such as this to set the tone for the future of your relationship with her. She clearly knows she was wrong to have made this comment, and the sooner you let her know you aren’t going to be angry with her about it, the better, in my opinion.

Post # 11
1284 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

That does suck. I’m guilty of letting details like this slip too… so I can understand why it happened. I’m sure it just slipped out and I’m not sure if “knowing better” would have done her any good. 

If it was my Fiance… he’d forget. Haha. Try to hold on to that and remember that one detail definitely does not give away the whole thing. He will still be surprised and totally in the moment when he sees you :).

Post # 13
159 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@MissNachoLover:  The positive here is that guys really have no clue (speaking in generalities here, but for the most part) and he’ll likely forget. I could straight up show my Fiance a picture of my gown and all he’d remember is that it’s white (which, technically, it isn’t. It’s ivory- ha!). I’m willing to bet your Fiance doesn’t know what “black sash” means, even if he remembers his mom spoke the words.

Cheer up; it’s really sweet that your Future Mother-In-Law realizes she made a mistake and apologized to you!

Post # 15
343 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’ll bet he either wasn’t paying attention, or even if he was he won’t remember come the big day. My Fiance was in the store when I bought my shoes, and I even showed them to him to ask his opinion, and all he remembers (this was about 2 months ago) was the make (the name of the store), the fact that they were heels, and that they were ‘white’ (they’re not, they’re three shades of cream/gold, with large felt flowers on the toes). 


Verdict – boys are rubbish :p

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