- 4 years ago
- Wedding: October 2016 - His Way Church & Chesapeake Room @ Downs Park
Okay, so Fiance just told me that his mother asked him if we are inviting a couple…let’s call them Peter and Carly…
She knows we are having a small-ish wedding and that only immediate family members and a few close friends will be invited but she asked this question anyway. Peter and Carly are in no way related to us and are basically just FMIL’s friends. Try to follow me here. Peter and Carly have a daughter who had a baby about a year ago. Peter is Greek, and in the Greek tradition, he asked that Future Mother-In-Law be the godmother to their grandbaby. That is how she knows this couple. They were also in her wedding a few years back.
Anywho, so, she asks Fiance if we’ve invited them, to which he replies “No” and she sighs and says “Oh, okay. I guess I’ll just have to deal with that.” That pisses me off. Oh, I’m so sorry you have to deal with that but the fact is we are paying for this wedding ourselves, you have not offered to contribute anything (monetary or otherwise) and yet you expect us to invite your friends whom we have literally spoken five words to throughout the entire course of our relationship? Whatever.
Skipping ahead, Future Mother-In-Law mentions to Fiance that she wants to throw us a “wedding shower.” She explains that in the Greek tradition, couples are thrown a wedding shower NOT a bridal shower. Fiance asks, “Well, who all would be invited to this thing?” and Future Mother-In-Law says, “Oh, you know, Peter and Carly, people from my work, people from my church, etc”…..so Fiance realizes right then that her motivation to have this wedding shower is just so she can include this couple, Peter and Carly, whom we didn’t invite to the wedding! And WTF is that about? Why would we want to have a shower and just sit there and expect gifts from people who we don’t even know and who aren’t invited to the wedding in the first place?!??! It’s insane. She then tells him not to tell me about the wedding shower and make it a surprise, simply because she knows that if Fiance told me, that the answer would be No.
Oh, yeah, and to top it all off, I need to say this…Future Mother-In-Law isn’t even Greek. But she is OBSESSED with everything Greek. She thinks she is, but she isn’t. Her mother told us just before she passed away that Future Mother-In-Law was adopted and is actually scotch-irish. But her adopted father was Greek so she thinks she is. She married a Greek man, goes to a Greek Orthodox church and looks down on people who aren’t Greek Orthodox and is always ALWAYS talking about her Greek heritage in a bragging sort of way. Like, anytime we mention anything at all, “Well, the Greek way to do it is….” or “Well, in Greek tradition….” which means that Fiance isn’t even Greek either, but she continues to push this Greek thing on us all the time. It is so freaking annoying.
She is not a horrible person or anything, in fact she is very sweet to me/us most times but she can tend to do very passive aggressive things. And this Greek crap is really REALLY getting old. I just wish so much that someone would tell her the truth so she would stop the charade (FI and I think that deep down she realizes the truth but goes on pretending since she has no reason to think otherwise).