Post # 1
I think by now most of the hive knows I am in the process of becoming a two dress bride. My Maggie is for sale, and I am scouring used dress sites, looking for inspiration, pricing at bridal shops, and eagerly awaiting the Spring 2011 lines. Last night, I played dress up at FIL’s house so I could get better pictures of the back of the dress, and wouldn’t you know it, as soon as I said how I had it up for sale, Future Mother-In-Law started talking about how it’s so pretty and why would I go and do a thing like that! And if there are parts I’m worried about, she’ll get me an appointment with a seamstress friend. I was gracious (yay seamstress hookup for later!) but it is so discouraging when people try to talk you out of something. I know we all have experience with that in some aspect of wedding planning. I had flat out said that I was not happy with the dress and am looking to sell it, so she proceeded to tell me what a great dress it is. What is that going to help? If anything, now it just makes me feel bad for selling it. My mom basically picked it out, and my Fiance said “Wow” when he saw the pictures.
I am starting to think it really is all in my head, but when I look at pictures of myself in it, I get so disappointed. Even the hive picked my old dress over another option in a poll. Granted, that option was not the best for me and did not work out, but when I consider that I will probably take a $ hit and that everyone but me seems to love it, I sometimes wonder if I shouldn’t just suck it up. Any bees been in a similar situation?
Post # 3
Yup, I picked the dress that noone likes over everyone’s favorite. People judge a dress based on their own tastes, or especially here from photos that can often be deceiving. I always knew a trumpet dress wouldn’t work on me for various reasons when it was said and done, and I was right. I wish I had bought the dress I loved five months ago, I would’ve had enough time to make modifications to it to make it just perfect. Go with your gut feeling – there’s no reason why you should “suck it up”. The only opinion that matters is yours and you know how you want to look better than anyone else can.
Post # 4
Well, if it makes you feel better… I didn’t really like it. lol. Not my taste at all.
I am a two-dress bride as well. I bought one that my mother loved, my friends loved, etc. but that I didn’t love. I let their feelings sway me in my decision. It took me almost 6 months to realize that I was very unhappy with that decision, then another month to work up the guts to tell my mother.
In the end, I now own a dress that I love. I am much happier, and surprisingly… everyone likes the new one better. I showed Fiance a pic of my original one and he was like… “Ew.”
You have to do what makes you happy.
Post # 5
meliss — I have agreed with you from afar in your posts, but it’s so much harder now that it is happening to me! And you are so right that the pictures are what make me dislike it more; it is a beautiful dress in person, even if not the dress for me, but I really think it and me look crappy in pics.
zippy — It does make me feel better to hear that you don’t like it haha. Since I was so sure I wasn’t going to keep this dress, I showed Fiance the pics, and his jaw about dropped. That was sort of difficult because he is sooo not into anything related to how a person looks. I like to think he’ll have that reaction anyway, but now I worry that if I get another one, he’ll compare it back to this one.
Post # 6
I think people’s natural inclination is to approve the wedding choices that you’ve made because they think it will make you feel better, when in actuality you really just want honest opinions.
I wouldn’t listen to her…I think it’s most important how you feel about your dress, not anyone else.
Post # 7
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
I’m sure he’ll love whatever you end up with! If it makes you feel any better, my fiance has read over my shoulder in the past when I’m on WB, and anytime he sees a girl worried if her fiance will like her dress, he gets all heated up and says that he’ll love it no matter what because how can he not?
He’s definitely assured me that when you’re walking down that aisle, your fiance will just be so happy to see you and he’ll love the dress no matter what!
And I think it’s great that you’re going to find a dress that makes you happy – it doesn’t matter what everyone else thinks. In the end, you’re the one who has to feel great in the dress!
Post # 8
Tulip — Good point. When I bought the dress, I never really got the feeling that she liked it very much or cared one way or the other. Maybe it’s a ressurance thing.
amanda — Thanks for the guy input!
You guys are helping me remember why I want another dress. It’s the way I feel in it and about it. I am so terrible with second-guessing myself. I was unsure if I should get it even when I went to the store to buy it, and I regretted the decision almost immediately. Nothing has changed except now people have seen “my” dress instead of a sample, but that shouldn’t matter.
Post # 9
Aw, it’s really hard when your family fall in love with a dress you don’t. I’ve had a similar experience this week, although I haven’t bought the dress yet, and it does make you feel really blue. However, if it has taught me anything it’s that you will look the best in the dress you love the most. Your family will then love it because you shine in it. Definitely choose a dress you love, that’s all that matters!