(Closed) FMIL making me grr

posted 9 years ago in Flowers
Post # 3
596 posts
Busy bee

Sorry to hear that she is being difficult!  Can you have your Fiance talk to her?  Let him tell her that you guys will be happy to cover the cost of the flowers.

Post # 4
700 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I would just approach her and let her know that you are for sure getting these centerpieces and how much did she want you to contribute towards the florist bill. 

That is an awesome deal, by the way.  I thought I was getting by squeaky clean for about $1400 for all of that, so kudos to your bargain hunting. 

Post # 5
14183 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Wow Under $700?!?! That IS a good deal. Even with centerpieces. We spent a little over $300 for our centerpieces, plus about $250 for FAKE flowers, not even real ones! Candles wouldn’t cost THAT much less than the deal you got, trust me!

Post # 6
397 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

That’s a great deal.  Do what YOU want.  Keep the centerpieces!!

Post # 7
159 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I think your Fiance needs to step in and talk to her and if she isn’t comfortable paying for what you want, then maybe you need to consider taking on the cost.  This is your wedding and you should have what you want, maybe instead of the entire cost she will pay for 1/2 and you can pay for 1/2. 


Post # 8
234 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

That is a GREAT deal – Have you thought about taking what you are getting and having other places tell you how much it would cost and sharing those totals with her? Maybe you could figure out the costs of the candles and share that with her?  I don’t think people realize how much candles can cost!

Post # 9
1022 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I would just pay the extra for the other flowers that weren’t included.  I would say that would probably be the easiest way to keep the peace.  It’s not worth a fight with her, or your time or energy.  

Post # 10
2640 posts
Sugar bee

What you’re saying sounds reasonable.  It so hard when someone offers to pay for "something" rather than say give you X amount of money, whether it’s for the general fund or towards something specific.  Just thank her for her contribution and make up the difference yourself.  Why is she complaining about that?

Post # 12
106 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2018 - Millenium Biltmore Hotel

By Los Angeles standards (I’m assuming that is where your wedding is), those prices are amazingly low. Your future Mother-In-Law should be thanking her lucky stars that she has such a resourceful future daughter-in-law. Also, I think the way you told her she can pay whatever she wants is great! Then she shouldn’t have much to complain about! 🙂

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