(Closed) FMIL–Mo'Problems!?

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
338 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014



I do not think you are over reacting at all I would be furious if any of those things happened to me.


So first of all her telling the brother he is the best man before your Fiance did is not ok, first of all he shouldnt feel pressured to have him in the bridal party and if he had picked a friend then how would your Mother-In-Law have explained that.

I think you made the right choice in not asking her opinion on anything to do with the wedding of she is going to be negative about it, it is yours and your fiances day and it doesnt really matter if they dont like it or not. I havent asked for anyones opinions on my choices for this reason.

The email … WOW lets just say if I received an email like that I would very likely univite her and tell them I was eloping, cudos to your man though for sticking up for you, I cannot stand when men take there mothers side when they are in the wrong.

In regards to the BBQ she should be happy that you even decided to throw it, who care if the extended family doesnt see you on your wedding day or get to celebrate it with you, how often would you see them anyway.


I think your fiance just need to advise her to get off your case and that he loves you and if she has a problem with you then thats her issue.


Sorry I know I probably want much help haha

Post # 4
274 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Spend as much time outside of the house that you can?  Lol.  I’m sorry that things are going rough!  Do you have any relaxing hobbies you could spend time doing that week?  And maybe taking the mother only to a spa day would be nice.  You guys could relax and work on cooling the heat between you guys.  If it makes you feel any better, my poor sister in law had her mom show up drunk to her wedding ceremony and had to deal with her husbands family at her house.  They ended up breaking her toilet and telling her right after she got home from her hotel stay that they needed to replace her toilet…. I guess maybe its something that later you’ll look back on and giggle about?  Wish I was of more help.

Post # 5
3 posts
  • Wedding: April 2014

I’m sorry you have to go through this especially more so because I know exatly how you feel. The only difference is that it’s my mother and not his. His family are the kindess people I have ever meet. To be completely honest I thought it was a little weird that his family was so supportive because I’ve never had anything like it.

My mother has done many similiar things. She’ll make comments about my taste or how much things cost (she’s not paying for anything). So now I don’t include her when it comes to things I’ve picked out and when she asks how much it is, I just say, It’s within my budget. 

And my dad makes comments about the menu. “I don’t like chicken”. We’re having a small wedding and to stay within our budget we are having a select menu. But really who doesn’t like  chicken?! He told me if I could have something brought in just for him. ummmm…no? 

I think you’re doing the right thing by not asking her opinion on things for the wedding and as far as the week long stay. My advice…keep your eyes on the prize! You’re are marrying a very supportive man who stands my you when it matter. He even stands up for you to his mother. Good for him. 

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