(Closed) FMIL passed away

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
11271 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@kjo:  i am so sorry to hear this.  my condolences to you and your fi’s family. 

is there something of hers that you can wear on your wedding day, like a piece of jewellery or tuck something into your bouquet?


Post # 4
1571 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m so sorry for your loss. I think mypinkshoes had a great idea, it would be lovely if you wore a piece of her jewelry.

Post # 6
542 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I am so sorry for your loss. Hugs!  For my grandparents who had passed, I had my mother carry a rose for each of them which she placed on an empty seat in the first row.  In my program it said “In loving memory of  {insert names here} a single rose placed in their seats honors their everlasting presence here today and in our hearts always.

You could carry it separately with your bouquet or even instead of having it placed on a chair carry one special colored rose in your bouquet to symbolize her presence at the wedding. 

I do love the idea of a special piece of jewelry too. You could always have a small pocket sewn into your gown on the inside somewhere too if you didn’t want to wear it. Again, I did that with my grandmother’s lucky sixpence that we’ve all had at our weddings. Just a thought.



Post # 7
3775 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

My aunt passed away 6 days before my cousin’s wedding.  It made for a very emotional day, but they had a couple people stand up before the toast and say something about how much she loved her son and his new wife and how happy she was that they found each other.  It was emotional, but I feel like honoring her in that way allowed everyone to openly acknowledge the feeling of loss and enjoy the rest of the evening.

Post # 8
3580 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@kjo:  What about a photo slide show of her life playing by the candle or playing over dinner? Everybody that knows you well will understand the importance of having her be a part of it.

My grandmother died te week of my wedding. I feel you! Hope your Fiance feels better soon.

Post # 10
13251 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m so sorry to hear this.  Maybe you could find what readings were done at her wedding and have it done at yours, too?

Post # 11
4605 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@kjo:  First of all, I am so sorry for your loss. My Future Mother-In-Law passed away rather unexpectedly in July this year. FH was devestated and it seemed silly to even think about a wedding, sometimes it still does. I think that your ideas are wonderful and I also agree with pinkshoes, if you can find a piece of her jewelry that you could borrow, you could tie it to your bouquet. I lost my father when I was 8, and I plan to tie his wedding band around my bouquet. 

Post # 12
1663 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m so sorry.  I like the jewelry idea.  Or a reading in her honor?


Don’t forget to give yourself time to process this loss right now– of course you’re not excited about the wedding.  Maybe take a break from planning for a little bit to allow yourself to focus on all of this?

Post # 13
3415 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge

Oh gosh I know how much it sucks. Future Mother-In-Law passed this last April at a family function. Very sudden and tradgic. We are going to learn a waltz or something and dance it instead of a mother son dance. Fiance mom loved dancing with the stars so we wanted to make her a special moment in our reception. Truly sorry for your loss. I’m sure you can think of lots of great ways to remember her on your day.

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