Post # 17
if she used to be a wedding coordinator I am sure she has had LOTS of experience with this vendor and I sure they are amazing. I would take the free cake.. they are CRAZY expensive – and knowing she is controlling… let her having this one and just tell her since she chooses the vendor you get to pick the design and flavors!
Post # 18
Thanks for your advice, fellow Bees! Granted, she does know her stuff, and I trust her judgement when it comes down to vendors, but she’s suggested venues that are far outside our budget, so I don’t think she has a full grasp of how expensive things can be nowadays.
I rethought my position, and I was ready to accept. But when I brought it up to Fiance, he said a firm no. The reason being, he knows she’ll hold it over our head until Kingdom come, and he doesn’t want to be beholden to her. Unfortunately, he’s right-that’s just the way she is. Although the cake is free, it’ll come with a price.
Post # 19
@Rocport: I totally undestand. Sometimes its just not worth it is it. Let her down gently
Post # 20
@Rocport: She’ll hold a cake over your head for the rest of your life?! Really? A dessert made of flour and sugar and eggs is worth a bad relationship with you? That is so unbelieveable. What a weirdo!
Post # 21
@redheadem: My Aunt in Law and Mother in Law have a very strained relationship that stems from my Mother-In-Law refusing to wear a dress my AIL bought her to a wedding….some people are just strange…
Post # 22
Cake update, Bees! Fiance & I are getting a great deal on a delicious cake (Viktor Bene) with a reasonable delivery charge-yay! It turns out, her pick was too expensive and they don’t deliver to our location. We did express our gratitude for the offer, though.
As it is, we are in our late 40s and this is an encore marriage for both of us, and FMIL often tells me about his previous wedding (many years ago) & the details-blecch! Really?! I’m not interested, nor do I care. That’s a whooole other story!
Post # 23
Glad it worked out. I totally hear you on that whole holding it over the head deal. I think my Future Mother-In-Law would try that if she actually thought it would work with me. Ahahahaha
Post # 24
yeah. Future Mother-In-Law can be rough, mine certainly has given me alot of headaches. But I’m so happy to hear that your situation worked out! it gives me encouragement to see that somethings with families might just work themselves out!