(Closed) FMIL pissed about destination wedding

posted 7 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
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408 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

You just have to give her time. My family freaked the F out when I told them we were having a destination wedding. Now, 4 months later, they have calmed down- for the most part. You just have to let them get used to the idea. My main piece of advice is to continue being happy- this is a really special time for your and your FI- don’t let them ruin it!! Someone would have something to say no matter what you decided to do.

Post # 4
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1418 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I agree – give her time to come around.  You shouldn’t sacrifice what you and your FI want because she is upset right now.  It is very generous of you two to be covering their expenses as well!

As for other family, no not everyone will want to pay to attend a DW.  Perhaps to appease your FMIL regarding this issue, you could all agree to have some kind of party/reception/bbq when you get home to celebrate with your friends and family who could not make it to Mexico.

Post # 5
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2788 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I’m sure she will eventually get used to the idea.  Once it gets closer to the date, she will start getting excited as well; its just unfortunate that she can’t get past what she had envisioned for your wedding and just be happy for what you (and FI) envisioned for it.

Post # 7
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5148 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Both my and his parents are excited about our DW, but we have been warned by his mom that his grandma will probably freak out and throw a fit. His mom’s advise for us: “She just needs to vent and feel like she has a say. Do what YOU want for YOUR wedding!”, I think that was great advice!

Post # 8
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2381 posts
Buzzing bee

Our parents are all excited about the DW (we’re also paying our parents’ expenses). All our family has taken the news pretty well. We’re from different parts of the country so one side of the family would have had to travel anyway if we had it in the States. 

 

Post # 9
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83 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I agree with everyone else about giving it time for her to adjust and change her expectations.  My mom had the same concern about all the people who wouldn’t be able to travel so far for the wedding, but after some time and after we explained that we had already considered this and understood it, it was fine.  It also helped that so many of our relatives were excited too! 

Post # 10
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1315 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Def she’ll come round. Are you going to have a reception at home then after? That would prob settle her worries about the people who wouldn’t travel…

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