(Closed) FMIL planning a reception behind eloping bride’s back

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
217 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Eeew! I’m thinking “Monster-in-Law” with Jane Fonda!

Sounds like you guys need to sit down and have a real heart-to-heart with future Mother-In-Law. She needs some serious boundaries. Let her know that, if she’s not willing to respect your wishes, you guys will be forced to limit contact with her. It’s going to be a difficult conversation, and she’s probably going to throw a tantrum. But she has to respect your relationship and your wishes.

Post # 4
426 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Hooooly cow. Crazy lady! I agree with MissMarriage, though, definitely. You can’t just keep telling her you don’t want things – you have to lay down the law!

Post # 5
5766 posts
Bee Keeper

If you really want to make a point about it, you just don’t show up. She’ll get the hint…right in her face and she will probably die of embarrassment.

OR…you can just be nice about it and keep on telling her you aren’t interested, until it really sinks in.

Post # 6
1370 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@ItWasntMe: I was thinking not showing up as well.


Post # 7
14494 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@ItWasntMe: exactly my thought also.

Post # 8
376 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

WOW!!! I can not believe this! She is crazy, she wasnt even going to tell you or your parents? WOW!!!! 

Post # 9
1798 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I would have Fiance tell her that you and he will not be attending any wedding related events. Don’t let her guilt you into doing anything you don’t want.

Post # 10
2247 posts
Buzzing bee

I would not attend her crazy party!  She is NUTS!  You really need to have your Fiance be firm with her, and I’d consider cutting her off before any babies come along.

Post # 11
2651 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Don’t go.

Post # 12
195 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@msfahrenheit: I agree. I think Fiance is the one who needs to address this with her, since clearly she isn’t listening to you.

Post # 13
1278 posts
Bumble bee

Oh goodness, this isn’t a good thing!  What does your Fiance think about this?  Anyway the two of you could sit down with the Future Mother-In-Law and tell her no?

Post # 14
927 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

if she keeps pushing it i would just not go and tell your parents and friends to not go too. it will just make HER look bad

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