(Closed) FMIL problems

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 47
135 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Yeah, that sounds like Future Mother-In-Law is a little insecure about herself and has had family issues WAY before you came into the picture.  That’s her own damn issue, you cannot make her happy b/c her issue lies with her family she is so paranoid about having a negative view.  Not healthy at all.  She might need to see a dr for whatever is the underlined issue… for depression, anxiety, paranoid schizophrenia…seriously pay her no mind or this woman will drive you bananas.

Post # 49
831 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

OP – I feel for you.

You just gotta laugh, I guess. They want everyone to THINK they helped pay for the wedding, even though they didn’t. “Now everyone’s going to think we didn’t pay for the wedding that we didn’t pay for!!” LOL.

They made a pretty big assumption thinking their names would be on that invite.  Even if they offered to cover one thing (flowers? alcohol?) I could see them expecting to be on the invite but how can they expect to be presented as hosting an event which they are NOT HOSTING at all?


Post # 50
312 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@kimm99:  Ha! This is exactly what I was thinking. 

Post # 51
370 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

sooo, your future mother in law feels slighted because you guys aren’t helping her save face by pretending she’s contributing to your wedding? Seems like if she was so concerned with people judging her because she wasn’t contributing to your wedding she should have… wait for it… contributed to your wedding. You guys did nothing wrong but wording your invitations according to etiquette.

I also have to say, I would be positively livid if my future mother in law asked to have a conversation about my wedding and specifically requested that I not be present. I don’t care if she didn’t want to be bitchy in front of someone she considers a “family outsider”..you’re family now, and she needs to respect that you and Fiance are a unit, and that your wedding will be planned as such.

It sounds to me that she wants everyone to think that she’s this wonderful propper lady, but doesn’t want to have to go to the trouble of actually BEING this wonderful propper lady.

Post # 52
164 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Not to ask the stupid question, but if Mother-In-Law wants everyone to think she contributed to your wedding, why doesn’t she, you know, contribute to your wedding?

Hang in there it is not your fault and you’re doing a great job. Emily Post would smile down on your good invitation etiquette!

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