Post # 47
Yeah, that sounds like Future Mother-In-Law is a little insecure about herself and has had family issues WAY before you came into the picture. That’s her own damn issue, you cannot make her happy b/c her issue lies with her family she is so paranoid about having a negative view. Not healthy at all. She might need to see a dr for whatever is the underlined issue… for depression, anxiety, paranoid schizophrenia…seriously pay her no mind or this woman will drive you bananas.
Post # 48
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Since you and Fiance are paying- you are hosting, and per the etiquette guru, Emily Post, you worded your invites correctly- if it helps (doubtful), you could always tell her you were doing your best to follow etiquette:
Post # 49
OP – I feel for you.
You just gotta laugh, I guess. They want everyone to THINK they helped pay for the wedding, even though they didn’t. “Now everyone’s going to think we didn’t pay for the wedding that we didn’t pay for!!” LOL.
They made a pretty big assumption thinking their names would be on that invite. Even if they offered to cover one thing (flowers? alcohol?) I could see them expecting to be on the invite but how can they expect to be presented as hosting an event which they are NOT HOSTING at all?
Post # 50
@kimm99: Ha! This is exactly what I was thinking.
Post # 51
sooo, your future mother in law feels slighted because you guys aren’t helping her save face by pretending she’s contributing to your wedding? Seems like if she was so concerned with people judging her because she wasn’t contributing to your wedding she should have… wait for it… contributed to your wedding. You guys did nothing wrong but wording your invitations according to etiquette.
I also have to say, I would be positively livid if my future mother in law asked to have a conversation about my wedding and specifically requested that I not be present. I don’t care if she didn’t want to be bitchy in front of someone she considers a “family outsider”..you’re family now, and she needs to respect that you and Fiance are a unit, and that your wedding will be planned as such.
It sounds to me that she wants everyone to think that she’s this wonderful propper lady, but doesn’t want to have to go to the trouble of actually BEING this wonderful propper lady.
Post # 52
Not to ask the stupid question, but if Mother-In-Law wants everyone to think she contributed to your wedding, why doesn’t she, you know, contribute to your wedding?
Hang in there it is not your fault and you’re doing a great job. Emily Post would smile down on your good invitation etiquette!