So a little background: I am 100% irish and my SO is 100% Italian- like both families off the boat. We try very hard to embrace both families’ cultures.
A while ago, I had emailed him a door knocker i liked for the house as a possible xmas gift. it is a horseshoe with a small claddagh on it. it is irish, but not gawdy or anything. Besides we have nothing on our door.
So he left his pc up at home the other day and i see an email between him and his mom. he sent the doorknocker to her as an idea for me, and she replied “you really going to put irish on your door?”
First of all are you freaking kidding me?!?!?! its OUR door and we are a blended family. I embrace everythign that is italian and we cant have anything irish around our house?!?!
To make it worse, he replied back to her. “no probably not”
I am so rip roaring made about it but I cant say anything because then he will know i was reading his email (even though he left it up)
Not to mention we were planning on getting my duaghter a little mermaid vanity for her room for xmas, as her big gift.. and his mom went out and bought it for her. She is doing it under the guise of trying to get her a good present, but really is wanting to one up us and have my daughter like her present the best.
AND SO was casually talking to FMIL about me and him getting married on the beach at cape cod, and she got all pissy saying, “what about that big church wedding you have always dreamed of” and SO was like, “i didnt know I always dreamed of that..sounds more like your dream”. Then she was bitchy because i havent gotten an annulment from my first marriage. Well I am definitely not going to now, because that will assure she doesnt get her way!
We have been together for 3.5 years now and are trying to plan a life together but it is really hard and very frustrating when I dont feel as though she likes me. I know that his mother feels that he deserves a girl who is italian, not married before and doesnt have a child from a previous relationship (SO is 30, not many girls left that dont have some kind of baggage lol)
But she doesnt realize that we are very happy together and that is what should matter. Just needed to vent, Im feeling pretty crappy..