(Closed) FMIL Problems!

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

As far as the additional flower girl, I would just explain that your wedding party has already been decided and you’d like to keep the numbers where they are.  If she really wants to help, why don’t you suggest some areas where she could help where things are not decided yet (cake, band, etc, maybe).

Post # 4
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2000 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Oh gosh, this is definitely a hard issue to address. Especially since it’s not YOUR parents, it’s his. Honestly, in this situation I don’t know if I could personally go up to Future Mother-In-Law & Future Father-In-Law and be like “Look, this is the way it is…”

But, what I WOULD do is talk to Fiance & tell him what’s going on…and make sure you’re both on the same page. It’d be a lot easier for him to talk to him then you would, because that’s their son & they love him…& while I’m sure they love you too, they may not take what you have to say very lightly & may be insulted.

That’s the only advice I have for you as of now 🙁 I just tried to put myself in your shoes! Good luck girl, I know it can be stressful because you want to make everyone happy.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I also agree with @IA Snowflake, when she brings up the flower girl issue you COULD just casually say something about you’re already having one, but instead of just totally blowing her off, you could then suggest other things you’d love her help with. Good advice!

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