- 4 years ago
- Wedding: Davis Island Garden Club
So yesterday we spent Easter at my Future in Law’s house. My FMIL loves to shop and give gifts and she is extremely generous with gifts for every holiday and Easter is no exception.
Amoung my Easter goodies yesterday was a faux pearl jewlery set. A bracelet, dangly earlings, and a long necklace that can be looped around about 3 times. The pearls are varying shades of blush, which matches the applique on my wedding dress. A few minutes before I opened the gift, I had shown her a picture of a headpiece I was condidering that had similar blush pearls and rhinestones. When I opened it I was surprised. I said “Oh it matches the headpiece I was showing you, and it matches my wedding colors.” She just smiled along.
My question is, do you think she intended it to be wedding jewelry? I feel like if she intended it to be worn on my wedding that she would have said something to that effect. For Christmas she bought me some costume jewlery and a purse in my color scheme, but they were obviously way too casual for wedding wear. But these pearls seem a little too dressy for “everyday wear”.
The issue is that my mom has it in her head that she sould be the one to purchase every garment and accessory that touches my skin on the wedding day. My gown, jewelry, undergarments, shoes…she feels like it is her duty to supply it all. Mom is not happy about this jewelry, but I dont want to start WWIII over Jewelry that was just intended to be a pretty gift.
The other side of this is that I would like to be the one who picks out my accessories. I cant imagine my FMIL thinking she could by some random jewelry online and that I would wear it on my wedding day…
I talked to FI about it and he thinks she just bought it to be sweet, and it doesnt matter if I wear it or not. But I dont want to hurt her feelings on wedding day if she was expecting to see me wear it and I have on something else. Should I clarify this with her? Or just let it go???