(Closed) FMIL really pissed me off (sorry it’s so long)

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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778 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

What about throwing two receptions?

Have your ceremony and larger reception in California as planned.  If you are photography or videography, wait till the albums or video are complete and then plan a weekend in GA, where you have a nice outdoor BBQ or a small get together where people can see the ceremony and reception in photos or video and where everyone can congratulate you two on the nuptuals.

My husband and I ran into a similar issue.  Only his mom, sister and cousin came to our wedding.  Overall we had 200+ guests and only 30 were his friends and family.  His family all lives in WI.  We plan on going to WI in August and throwing a big pizza party with his aunts, uncles and grandmother that couldn’t make it.  His famiy is excited by the prospect and we are looking forward to it too!

 

Post # 4
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613 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

yesh!  Im mad at her to.  it seems like she doesnt want to be bothered.  what kind of mom – who gets financial assitance from her son – wouldnt come to his wedding.  I could understand if it was a financial hardship, but youre paying!!  She sucks…how about have the cousin in TX  give her a call and grease the wheels…

Post # 6
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271 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

You should tell your Future Mother-In-Law about the unaccompanied minor program they have with most airlines- they watch your child to make sure he gets to where he is supposed to be, they will even hold the plane until he gets there. I did this when I was 5, so the little bro should be able to come. Offer to pay cab fare too for him to get to the airport, or if she doesn’t trust the cabbies, then get an old friend of the FH to pick him up and bring him. Maybe if you go through all these hoops she will realize how much it means to FH that someone from his family is there, especially his mother and little brother

And, I’m not above guilt tripping. Maybe FH should drop the financial assistance hint when talking about how much he wants her to be there.

Either way, I’m peeved at her too.

Post # 8
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2640 posts
Sugar bee

Sorry this is hurting him, that his mom seems to be sour grapes about  this.  Did she give you grief all along about not having it GA?  It’s probably hard for her to feel like she’s not only losing her son, but a member of her tiny family, and to someone with a much larger, friendlier, warmer family, who loves him.  She might feel like he just loves your family better.  Will he always want to spend holidays with your family?  I don’t know if that’s what’s going on with her.  If so, it sure doesn’t help, and doesn’t excuse why she’s hurting her son.  But if that’s what’s going on, could you two say something to help her through this and feel more connected?

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