(Closed) FMIL seriously just offered to clean my house…as a wedding gift.

posted 6 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 2
2127 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

It’s rather ridiculous but I find it pretty funny too! I’d let her do it!

Post # 3
2546 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

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Kristina1213:  It is pretty funny, but i’d go for it! Then again, my mom owns a cleaning business and i’m pretty sure has offered the same thing to other family members as a gift… 

Post # 4
5187 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

That’s an awesome gift! Takes  a lot more effort than sticking a check in an envelope. My Mom painted my kitchen for my birthday.

Post # 5
1165 posts
Bumble bee

OMG please clean my house….  I love maintaining it, but if someone could DEEP clean the shit out of all the crevice, the weird lining in the windows, the curtains…

Oh man I should hire cleaners LOL my house is clean and organize, but I am yearning for the deep cleanse–the one that screams there is not even a speck of dirt in this house.  Germs beware!

Post # 6
1521 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Ummm… wut?

Post # 8
978 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016 - Blue Hound Farm

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Kristina1213:  that would make me super uncomfortable, and I think I’d be a bit offended at the offer. 

On a side note, do you feel that your Fiance had certain expectations of you based on his mother? My SOs mother does all the housework and cooking in her home and even tho my SO won’t admit it, I definitely feel like he judges me based on that.


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Post # 9
301 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

This is something my mom would do for a friend. 

If you’re comfortable with it (I would be!), have your Fiance let her know that he’s convinced you not to clean the week or two prior. That way you are off the hook for pre-cleaning, and make sure to be gone for the day when she comes to do it.

Or, if you have known her so long, maybe you could just tell her, “That’s so generous, but honestly, I work so hard to clean anytime you are coming over, I really don’t feel comfortable with you coming over to our filthy house!”

She likely is an “acts of service” person, and this is the best gift she could come up with. I’d let her.

Post # 10
9076 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

You can send your Mother-In-Law to come clean my house.

Post # 11
1978 posts
Buzzing bee

I don’t think you need to be offended. I think it’s a thoughtful, very practical gift. I’d love to have someone clean my house while I was up to my ears in wedding crap 🙂

Post # 12
4160 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

My Mother-In-Law sounds similar.  She seems to really enjoy doing other people’s chores.  When her best friend’s husband was sick in the hospital, and eventually passed away last year, she went over weekly to clean her house and cook meals, look after their dog, etc. 

DH and I lived with his mom for a few months while we were waiting to get possession of our new place.  If we were at work, or just went out to get groceries or something, we would come back and our laundry would be all folded up for us.  I was so uncomfortable with her folding my ginch!  But sometimes I would just forget to take it out of the dryer, so she would take that opportuntity to do it for us (even if she didn’t need to do her own laundry.)

And a few weeks ago when I was in the hospital, she offered to do our laundry, clean the house, make any phone calls for us, cook meals, etc.  It was too much (I wrote a post about it a few days ago about how much it annoyed me.)

But that’s just her way of showing her love…I guess.  Even though it annoys the crap outta me.  So I totally get it.

Post # 14
1065 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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Kristina1213:  And it’s so laughable, because in a sane world, she would judge your house by her SON’s cleanliness (“I should have raised him to clean better!”). Not saying you don’t have a wonderful Fiance, it just pisses me off when women expect other women to do things their own sons don’t do!

Post # 15
1974 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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Kristina1213:  umm why you doing all/most the cleaning anyway..you both work..your fiance lives there too?? 

I’d let her clean it though, I think it’s a lovely gesture!

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