Post # 1
I was visiting the FIL’s this weekend, and Future Mother-In-Law excitedly runs out of her room with her dress for the wedding. It is full on champagne/dark ivory. SERIOUSLY?
I mean, it’s not like she’s wearing a wedding dress, but that’s a line you don’t cross!
A few months ago she had a light purple dress, and I told her that the BMs are wearing the same color, so she bought a teal dress. I thought she was done. Apparently not!
I was so stunned, I just said, Oh Great!
Am I right to be mad???
Post # 3
So is my Mother-In-Law. I am just happy she feels pretty in it. There is no way anyone would think she is the bride. Its not a brides dress.
you could ask her to wear a colored or dark beige shawl?
Post # 4
I don’t understand why you are mad.
She just wants to look nice.
Is the dress more elaborate than your dress?
Does it clash with your wedding colors?
Is is too short? Too long?
Post # 5
Ugh…yea, that is tough. What are the chances you would be able to nicely ask what happened to the teal dress? My Mother-In-Law has enough sense that she would never do that (nor would she do something malicious at all, she’s a doll), but she was getting anxious and upset about finding a dress. It is really hard on the MOG and MOB if they are not given any direction. Had you suggested any colors or styles to her?
Post # 6
I hate to be that-girl but if my Future Mother-In-Law did that, I’d be so relieved that she was so excited for the wedding!
Post # 7
IMO- No. Champange is a color, just becasue it’s KINDA close to white doesn’t mean anything. I’ve seen pletny of girls wearing champange to weddings as guests.
Post # 8
Ohh you girls are right. I’m glad she’s excited. My own mom still hasn’t bought her dress yet.
I think I might just ask her what happened to the teal dress, and if she seems bummed, I’ll just say ‘But this one is great, too!’
Post # 9
Oh, it doesn’t matter. Its YOUR wedding, everyone will be looking at YOU!
Post # 10
does she still have the teal dress? i would tell her that one was more flattering.
Post # 11
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
I’m surprised you’re not getting more sympathy. Champagne is not a great color for a MOG dress, since it’s pretty much just off-white. Is your dress ivory? Even worse!
That said… I don’t think you can fight the mothers on their dresses! I might do what you said and ask about the teal dress. “Oh, what happened to the teal one; that color would look so great on you in pictures!” and hope she’s swayed, but accept if she’s not. Maybe she’ll buy another dress before the end, who knows?
Post # 12
I would gift her a gorgeous shawl. That would solve the problem. And write her a note and give it to her the day of, something like “thank you for giving me the greatest gift…your son.”
Post # 13
@MrsDulce: oooh I like the gift idea, too! best of both worlds?
(but wait until closer to the wedding, maybe on the wedding day, just in case she changes her mind again and you end up with a shawl that doesn’t match!)
Post # 14
@spaniel:I agree. Whenever I hear this I just think of what it will look like in all. those.pictures.
Post # 15
I’ll give you sympathy girl! I would ask her what happend to the teal dress and make a case for why you like that one better… I had to explain to my Future Mother-In-Law AND my own mother – polietly of course – that dark purple (bridesmaid dresses) and any shade of white/off white were not the best options… My friend’s Mother-In-Law showed up to their wedding in a white dress and I thought she was gonna faint. She got talked about the entire night by the guests – an not because the bride instigated it – she didn’t say a word.
Some may think it’s silly to have an objection to a white/off white dress on any one other than the bride, but I am on the side of no one but the bride should be in that color.
If a guest shows up in white – whatever, you’ll have people like that… But Future Mother-In-Law in white makes me think of Monster in Law (Jennifer Lopez movie)…
Post # 16
I’m just kinda hoping my Future Mother-In-Law will come to my wedding.
Your dress is so different and so outstanding that I don’t think anyone will confuse you two. To be honest, I doubt anyone will really notice her dress.