Post # 17
Don’t be mad. It’s not white, and everyone knows she’s not the bride.
A friend of mine got married recently and her mother wore a LEGIT white, mermaid, strapless, sweetheart neckline dress with a train to her own daughters wedding. It was fancier (and unfortunately prettier) than the bride’s dress. Totally inappropriate and I felt so bad for my friend.
Post # 18
@spaniel: Haha yeah I’m crossing my fingers that she ends up going for the teal, or buying a new one. I told my mom and her jaw dropped.
Thing is, my Future Mother-In-Law can be malicious sometimes. She says and does things that I think she does just to get a rise out of people. She also doesn’t really think about how her actions affect others.
But, I also don’t want to start a fight, because she’s obviously important to Fiance. She’s also paying for all of the booze at the wedding. I just would hate to start something even before we’re married.
It’s such a small thing, I just felt like she was kidding…I really think it’s rude to wear something that is close to white at a wedding.
Obviously no one is going to question who is the bride…she just needs to be the center of attention in her own mind.
In all honesty, I would think that other guests would say ‘What was she thinking?’ not, ‘Oh wow, Kelsey’s Mother-In-Law looked just like a bride!’
So I’ll just push the teal dress, gently, and let it go if she wears the champagne one..
Post # 19
I would also just be happy she is excited. It is hard for MOGs, and dress options out there can be quite gross. If her outfit doesn’t look like a wedding dress, I don’t think there is any reason to be upset. Just my 2c.
Post # 20
@KristenGotMarried: wow now that’s ballsy.
Post # 21
@KristenGotMarried: Bahaha I thought that only happened in movies/books. Well now I don’t feel so bad!
Post # 22
ugggggg There are sooooo many colors out there. She had to pick that one? Just stay away from any creams, whites, ivory for one day. Is that too much to ask for????????
Post # 23
ugh i am with you 100%. i got mad when my GRANDMOTHER told me she was going to wear off white, let alone the MOG. tell her that the teal dress was more flattering 😉
Post # 24
@KristenGotMarried: Now that would upset most anyone hahaha I would be mortified!
Post # 25
oh and i meant to add – i kept telling my mom to tell her it was totally inapprop to wear white. so maybe you could get someone (aka your fiance) to be like “umm mom only the bride wears white.” or “that looks too close to white, maybe you should wear something else”
Post # 26
Just tell her you would prefer if she wore the teal dress? I don’t think there is any need to be mad, since she already changed the her attire from purple to teal at your request, she probably will not mind wearing the teal dress instead of the champagne one. I don’t think that is too much to ask for.
Post # 27
I understand you being mad, and I would be kinda mad too. Of course you want her to wear something she is comfortable in, but still. For me it would be the issue of what it will look like in pictures next to me. And, the fact that “everyone” knows that the Mother-In-Law is not supposed to wear white/white-ish colors…and yet she bought an ivory dress anyway. I would feel like she did it to hurt me, which is probably not true. Idk, I would probably just go with it, but if you can’t let it go, then you should definitely do something about it so you don’t have to see it in pictures forever.
Post # 28
My mom wore champagne, but champagne was one of our “colors.” Plus it was knee length with a jacket, LOL.
Post # 29
@cassedy04: Oh I didn’t even think about having Fiance say something…that’s genious! She can’t say no to him 🙂 and he can be nice about it too…just saying ‘I think that’s too close to white mom, why don’t you wear another color?’
Yeah, and I have a feeling her mind might change again. I tried toning down my ‘Oh, Great!’ to a lukewarm response, so maybe she will feel more confident about the teal that I really did love.
Post # 30
My future Mother-In-Law is wearing a champagne bridesmaids gown from db. My dress is ivory. I’m not concerned – everyone knows who the bride is. Don’t worry about it. 🙂
Post # 31
My stepmom has a champagne dress, and I was kind of pi$$ed at first, but hers is short and obviously not the bride’s dress, so I let it go. My mom’s is a silvery gray, and I was not happy at first, either, but she looks so pretty in it and it is a little darker in person than in the picture I saw so I let that one go, too. There will be no mistaking who is the bride on my wedding day 🙂