(Closed) FMIL Showed me her dress for the wedding – it’s CHAMPAGNE.

posted 11 years ago in Family
Post # 32
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m sorry you’re upset, but really, champagne is not white.  Unless it’s very, very light (and then the color’s not really champagne), there’s quite a difference.  If you were wearing a champagne wedding dress and she knew that or if you suspect she is wearing a lighter color to annoy you, that’s a different story. 

Post # 33
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Sugar bee

How old is she? The older, more traditional way for the Mothers to dress was that the MOG almost always wore beige or champagne so maybe that’s what she’s been told.

Both the MOG & SMOG wore champagne to my daughter’s wedding and a guest wore white. Everyone was older so you would think they would have known better, but it just isn’t that well known by many if they haven’t been involved in a wedding in awhile. I even have had friends ask me why so many ‘rules’ these days!

Do you have a picture of it or something similar? Is it just the color or style or both?

 

Post # 34
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

My Future Mother-In-Law wore champagne to my FSILS wedding, but she paired it with a black bolero and a black hat so it looked extremely EXTREMELY classy. What do her accessories look like? Is it gown-like or more dress like? 

Post # 35
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I would be pissed. I would say something.

Post # 36
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’ve always thought tradition was for mothers of both and grandmothers to wear a shade of ivory/white?

Post # 37
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2011

This would bother me too so you have my sympathy..,

My Future Mother-In-Law bought a blue green dress that I told her I loved… then randomly returned it and bought a light purple dress instead. Which is the same brand and same exact color dress that MY mother is wearing. And my Future Mother-In-Law was with us when my mom bought her dress, so there’s no way she doesn’t realize it’s the same color. The ONLY guidance I had given was no light blue (bridesmaids) and pick different colors from each other. Sigh. I just feel bad because my mom was SO excited about her dress and now I feel like a little of that has been stolen. Also the wedding is VERY small and I just think it will be strange for them to be so matchy-matchy, especially since purple isn’t one of our wedding colors.

Post # 39
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2011

You wouldn’t put your bridesmaids in champagne, so I wouldn’t want my Future Mother-In-Law to wear that color.  I hope it all works out for you!

Post # 40
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I really wouldn’t worry about it too much. Lots of mothers wear light/champagne dresses and no one is going to mistake her for the bride. She won’t be in that many pictues anyway.

Like others said, to make yourself feel better try to accessorize her with colours.

Its funny you say this because I chose a white set for my mom to wear. Its equally as white as my dress, but its a skirt and jacket set so no one is mistaking her for the bride. I just love how fresh it is and how it looks on her. When she first tried it on we were originally going to order it in a different colour, but it just looks so great!

Post # 41
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

That’s not very smart of her. Even if you let her wear it, people at the wedding may be judging her a little for wearing a nearly-white dres… I know I did when one of my older co-workers showed me a picture of her son’s wedding… She was in a “champagne” dress. I thought to myself, “Oh, so you’re THAT Mother-In-Law, got it.”

Post # 42
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

My mum’s dress is champagne – I actually picked it out. It’s got black detail on it with a big hat and she looks great. If it’s more ivory than champagne then I don’t think it looks right.

Post # 44
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would have to see what color her “champagne” dress is before I commented. There are dozens of colors out there labelled champagne that range from off white to almost brown.

I will say that many MOB’s and MOB’s wear some variation of that color as it is flattering to older skin.

 

 

These are all labelled “CHAMPAGNE”.

Post # 45
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I know I’m late to the party, but my mom wore a dress that was champagne with white and gold accents, and she looked gorgeous 🙂 

You’re the bride…everyone else could be wearing white, but the attention would still be on you!  (I wouldn’t really want that to happen to you, but you get my drift 😉 )

 

Post # 46
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Any thing in the white, ivory, champagne family is a NO WAY! I realize that you probably don’t want to tell her she can’t wear that…have your fiance tell her 🙂

 

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